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I took a break this weekend, didnt go anywhere other than outside my head.A break from Al Anon, reading, important talks, things like that. Tom and I had a wonderful - wonderful weekend. I let the worries and stress go and somehow told myself everything is normal, it is the way it uses to be, and looked at him like I used to. I struggled a little on Sat, but with effort I talked myself into it!!!!!!! As a result of my complete change in attitude and good vibes in me completely rolled over to him - as we both tend to feed off each other it was no surprise. We know things are not the way it should be or used to be, but I realized, it is ok to take a break from it all!Something that I feel should be done if you can and if your A in your life can as well (and he may just react to you). I think like most humans, we all sort of feed off another (at work, at home, on here, where ever). It is so powerful at times, vibes and all.
Before, if we would have a good day or weekend I would be so high from it when things went bad again or same patterns I would fall so hard and get so sad, for days. I am learning to try and still feel good when we have good days without expectations that it will last so I am not so let down feeling.I am getting better but still need a lot of improvement in this area. Hmmmmmmmmm, actually a lot of areas LOL
Point of my story.. even if it takes all you have inside, try to let go, dont give in to your anger, resentment, the things in your head that hold you back) even if for one day.. try it and see others reaction to yours!It always has and always will amaze me, the power we all have within!
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Great reminder The alanon opening statement says this as well. " We can be happy even if the alcoholic is drinking or not" It all depends on our attitudes
I use the slogans to help me to let go of the negative attitudes that still surface.
Let Go and Let God, How Important is it?, Keep it Simple, Focus on Yourself, Live one Day at a Time, Live and Let Live , Do Not Project and most important the Serenity Prayer.
Point of my story.. even if it takes all you have inside, try to let go, dont give in to your anger, resentment, the things in your head that hold you back) even if for one day.. try it and see others reaction to yours!It always has and always will amaze me, the power we all have within!
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OH yea, working on this along w/ step 3.........good ole step 7 "HP, and I say PLEASE HP, I am willing to give up ---------------------------" and i give thanks for being heard b/c willingness is a done deal......
i had a bunch to be willing to give up.....u have seen my posts....resentments, ill will, unforgiveness (letting them go to their HP) and a bunch of stuff....thought it was too long a list to make a big difference, but no....one day at a time can be said "one negative at a time"......
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Yes Betty so very true :) We can be happy even if the alcoholic is drinking or not" It all depends on our attitudes. Just hard to do at times....... mind over matter I say (with a little HP help)!!!!!! :)
Good luck neshema - yes, one day at a time! When I find myself being negative I hurry up and find a positive, it isn't all that hard to do. But some days I refuse, I choose to be absolutely miserable???? So strange. But I can be stubborn :)
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