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Well it's Sunday and it's ALAON night yeah!!!! It's my face to face meeting . My children say mom why are you so happy your going to a meeting ? Dad hates his meetings! This is true it's become a chore for him he not happy when he leaves and not happy when he returns . My meetings are my only night I get out to be with ppl who care and it's free!!! I applyed for some jobs last week since my A is not working right now how exciting that was for me to get out and fill out my OWN app and not have it proof read before passing it in.. The feeling of freedom of choice is wonderful I can make up my own mind now . to be out and open and ppl to see me makes me feel good . I'm not invisible any more no more explaining why that red light lasted a extra min . My meeting nights fuel me up with tools to last me the whole week . the meeting remind me it's about me . Only me no one else . Yes I been put down a lot this week all those nasty A habits that were here when the drink was around . Are back but dry. My AH 1 year is this week , he gets his chip !! I said to him so how do you feel??? With excitement And proud of his own achievement . His reply was it's just a chip it's like any other day no big event . I said to my A . How can you say that . You wanted to stop drinking your healthy you have a home your kids and ME! And I won't say how he felt about that lol. But who cares . Today my new job is management . I am my own boss , I make my own choices and the benefits are wonderful. Health benefits are free alaon approved . It's my hand book to life . I have a 12 step program that does not command me to do anything it's all free will. The 10 commandments are words of action you break them your condemned for them . The 12 steps it's ok to make a mistake because you learn and and move on.. I set up new Boundarys. In my home , had to me getting better and healthy has cause some resentment for my A. I new that would happen . He has a choice he can take me happy and healthy and accept me for who I am today and what I have learned from his sobriety and what Alaon has showed me or he can leave . My table is full of options not commands take what you like and apply them or take nothing and leave . That's your CHOICE.
I can totally relate to the part of being free and not having to be at the mercy of others. For me though it was at the mercy of others' approval. This program has given me the reminder that I don't need others' approval to be happy and I it's not necessary. I only need to approve of myself and if people can't understand the way I live my life, then eff them.
Thank you for checking in and sharing your growth and insights . Yes the 12 Steps are indeed powerful. If we make a mistake, we simply own it , learn for it and move on How great is that
Love your new picture and am praying for that new job for you.
So positive and inspiring. Alcoholim brought a lot of negativity into my life al anon turned the tables back tp positive. Saying a prayer for your A hope his programme begins to drip some positivity into him.
But you keep the focus on the things you can change shinning and smiling.
Well it's Sunday and it's ALAON night yeah!!!! It's my face to face meeting . My children say mom why are you so happy your going to a meeting ? Dad hates his meetings! This is true it's become a chore for him he not happy when he leaves and not happy when he returns . My meetings are my only night I get out to be with ppl who care and it's free!!! I applyed for some jobs last week since my A is not working right now how exciting that was for me to get out and fill out my OWN app and not have it proof read before passing it in.. The feeling of freedom of choice is wonderful I can make up my own mind now . to be out and open and ppl to see me makes me feel good . I'm not invisible any more no more explaining why that red light lasted a extra min . My meeting nights fuel me up with tools to last me the whole week . the meeting remind me it's about me . Only me no one else . Yes I been put down a lot this week all those nasty A habits that were here when the drink was around . Are back but dry. My AH 1 year is this week , he gets his chip !! I said to him so how do you feel??? With excitement And proud of his own achievement . His reply was it's just a chip it's like any other day no big event . I said to my A . How can you say that . You wanted to stop drinking your healthy you have a home your kids and ME! And I won't say how he felt about that lol. But who cares . Today my new job is management . I am my own boss , I make my own choices and the benefits are wonderful. Health benefits are free alaon approved . It's my hand book to life . I have a 12 step program that does not command me to do anything it's all free will. The 10 commandments are words of action you break them your condemned for them . The 12 steps it's ok to make a mistake because you learn and and move on.. I set up new Boundarys. In my home , had to me getting better and healthy has cause some resentment for my A. I new that would happen . He has a choice he can take me happy and healthy and accept me for who I am today and what I have learned from his sobriety and what Alaon has showed me or he can leave . My table is full of options not commands take what you like and apply them or take nothing and leave . That's your CHOICE.