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rehprof


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for three years, I have struggled...bankruptcy...working extra to take care of my kids, with no support from exA...broken household things that I had to find a way to repair (like when my well pump went, and my dad and I had to replace it in below freezing weather).

I try very hard to focus on the positive, be a good person, and try to be a positive force...some days, though...I am angry at having to work so hard at everything. A couple of weeks ago I posted about pushing the exA for some kind of financial help, bc I wasn't sure how I was going to buy oil this winter. I called his sister, but well, that went as expected. "He is so sick" etc etc. Basically, I can have no expectations of him. 

I had made peace with the fact that things were going to be very lean again this winter. And then I got a letter from Soc Security. I panicked. I thought the exA was trying to say the kids were with him 1/2 time so he could get more benefits. I prayed, and was determined to tell the truth.

So I called the number on the letter. It seems that the A is eligible for SSDI, and is going to be getting a huge settlement for retro benefits, and then ongoing monthly support. In a few weeks, so will my children, and I will be their representative payee. Basically this means I will get a big chunk of money, and then monthly support until they are 18. All I have to do is document that the money is spent on food, clothes, etc for the kids.

I have been reeling with this news. I am SO not used to good news. I keep questioning...did that really happen? Is this true? I will believe it when I see the numbers in my bank account. Yet, this will be even BETTER than a child support order (which I doubt the ex would have honored anyway). I will automatically get this money deposited each month.

I have been in a S*&t storm for so long, it had gotten in my eyes, and it was becoming hard to see anything but crap in my life. This is a huge ray of hope ..GRATITUDE. GRATITUDE. GRATITUDE. sometimes we just have to trust that things will be okay.

RP



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That is such awesome news :) woot woot woot Congratulations :)

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As Betty posted the other day: "Man's extremity is God's opportunity." I am sooooooooo very delighted for you and for your children, reh. I have had those lean years, too, and know just how much this news must touch you. Such wonderful news to read this Sunday morning.

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Great news Reprof! Very pleased for you!

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I am raising my Sunday morning cup of coffee to you.



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What good news! You had come to accept he would not contribute --- and then somehow things worked so your children now benefit from his past work. Another two miracles.

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What great news  Thanks for sharing it here

Made my day. 

A great reminder to "Not Project"



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Happy for you!!!

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Great news, thanks for sharing.x

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Amazingly good news! After following your journey over the years, it is great to hear this wonderful news. I had a similar thing happen to me this year. And it was very unexpected after years of struggling financially living with and without my AH. A month after he passed, I found out about an paid up life insurance policy that I didn't know about. I was absolutely floored when I found out and when the check arrived in the mail.

Our HP does take care of us when we let Him. I'm sure you are so relieved. Very happy for you and your kids.

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great!!!!!!

you are doing what i did. i relate so well.take care of ur needs too!i had a hard time doing that.my underwear was threads!lol socks never matched.

my kids are in their late 30's now and I still have a hard time with buying me stuff. Whenever I got money, I would pay their cars off or give it to them. sucker... hehe

I am sooo glad for you all. when one turns 18 it is just divided up between the others...you don't lose anything.

sending you tons of love,debilyn



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So glad to hear this! Sending you love and support!

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