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(((TT))) Sending you lots of comfort and understanding. I'm also praying that a new door of opportunity open for you where the employer cherishes you and appreciates your contribution to the wellbeing of an organization. I am an employer who wants healthy people to work with me. I also know other employers who valued their employees so much that after they sold their company, they repurchased it because the company was failing and their former employees would lose their jobs if they didn't buy the company back. There are good people out there who celebrate the giftedness of their employees and want good for them. I hope your new employer helps you realize your assets and contribution to the whole of the organization. If they don't, your HP can.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Tuesday 29th of October 2013 09:17:19 AM
I could really use some prayers if you have a few to spare. My mother died as a result of the hurricane last year. I feel numb. Today is the day the hurricane happened.
I learned at work that someone with no real knowledge and a only a temporary employee was shown favoritism because of lots of manipulation and throwing herself at the men in the company. She's been promoted as so many I work with are losing their jobs. I was passed over for this job and have the knowledge and experience. Not even a first interview. Is this what happens when you choose to respect yourself?
At the end of this week, a dozen of my coworkers in my own office will exit and we're not allowed to acknowledge their good work. They're suppose to hand in their badges and leave without a fuss. Those of us who still remain (for now) are to keep working and ignore the elephant in the middle of the room. These workers are the ones in helping professions and my friends. So in combination with the first year anniversary of my mother's death, losing friends from work and the lost job opportunity.. I am really trying to hold it together.
I have to be at a big meeting today and my role is miniscule but I am not a direct participant in the meeting itself. It hurts to have worked sooooo hard and to have earned my degree against such great odds with the ex's alcoholism/addiction interfering every step of the way, to have something to actually offer experientially and continue to be "invisible." This isn't a pity pot thing. I am honestly beginning to wonder if employers want emotionally healthy people or just people who willing to behave desperately and do anything for a job.
OK vent over. Time to get to the meeting and continue honoring myself with self respect. Hopefully, this will land me in a better place eventually. I guess along with my hp I can think of my mom today and try to stay true to the dau she raised. I'm going to be with a big group so I'm going to have try very hard to stay in the moment and not cry concerning my mom until I get home. Thanks for reading. TT
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Hugs TT, I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad passed away about 20 months ago but there are still days when I have to cry or something will come out of the blue to make me tear up. I hope your meeting goes well and that you are wrapped in your HP's arms of peace and comfort as you go through your day.
Thank you for sharing.
Sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. <3<3<3Prayers for you<3<3<3
Great awareness with the workplace. I have often had to remind myself that "If that's what they choose, well good luck" Time has a way of working things out. Stay true to you.
Where one door closes another opens.
My condolences on the loss of your mother. And I am sorry to hear of your working circumstances. I echo Mari and Grateful, you are being true to yourself and everything is in your HP's hands. I have always found that when work situations get to be intolerable, another opportunity will present itself. PLEASE take it easy on yourself in the coming weeks. Your Mother and family will be in my prayers.
As a fellow employee of a severely dysfunctional organization, I have learned a couple of things. First, an organization's culture flows from the top. Sick people create sick organizations, which attract and hire other sick people, and I know that prior to recovery, I definitely fit that description myself! (I think my company's top management could fill several pages in the DSM-5!) Second, I have to apply the Serenity Prayer to that situation and remember that, among the things I cannot change are my employer's culture and the people who create/maintain it. On the other hand, one of the things I can change is my job, and I have undertaken a plan to get the education and training I need so that I can change careers. If things go as scheduled I'll be handing in my notice in a year and a half.
Thank you (((everyone))) for your esh, prayers, expressions of sympathy, encouragement and loving support. I attended grief group last night and even connected with one of my alanon friends there and we shared for a bit with one another away from the rest of that group. We were able to provide the unique support of one another that only two alanons can and she shared news of a new baby in the family. Life goes on :)
It's Friday and I'm working out in the field today away from the plastic pretentious environment and instead doing one to one educating and also learning with people in the community - out in the real world - happy. It's a good fit. I feel hp's nudge and I'm getting ready.
Tomorrow I'll celebrate my mom's life. The ache is there but I have a lot of gratitude. Thanks for sharing your love and recovery with me. Hugs. TT
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