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Ness


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I am finding I can do this a day at a time.  It is 2 years this week (27th) since my son died of this disease. I have been agitated the last couple of weeks but my Al-anon tools when I apply them calm me. What I find much more difficult is his birthday, which is tomorrow (30th), he would have been 37. So I have to allow myself to feel the pain of this, because if I stuff it.....it hurts me more.....so I will take the day for what it is, keep my Al-anon programme close, light a birthday candle, and honour my son in my head and my heart.

 

In loving memory of my son

(((((Ness))))) xx

 



-- Edited by Ness on Tuesday 29th of October 2013 05:47:46 AM

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(((Ness))

Remembering your son and praying for your peace .  I too will  join you in lighting a candle in his honor.

You are not alone

bka



-- Edited by hotrod on Tuesday 29th of October 2013 06:50:24 AM



-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 30th of October 2013 09:23:01 AM

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((( Ness ))))

I'm so so sorry for your loss of your loving son. I pray that HP is with you this week and give you peace he is in a good place.



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(((Ness))) Take good care.



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my heart's with you

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Dear Ness: Thank you for sharing your mother's heart with us and the grief in it. Many prayers for comfort and peace for you.

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(((Ness)))

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(((Ness)))
May you feel the warmth of the love that surrounds you.
You are in my prayers.

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Hugs and prayers for you today, Ness! Lighting a candle for you and for all those who have been lost to this disease.

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I'm so sorry.  {{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}



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Sorry about your loss, you aren't alone. Remember that you did your best, and don't fall into blaming yourself for anything!!

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Lighting a candle here in Alaska tomorrow....peace Ness.....og



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Im so sorry , I cant imagine how painful this must be for you. Sending my thoughts to you.x



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Ness: I feel for you! I will always remember my dad's birthdays & the anniversary of his death. I don't however have to deal w/ the disease being the one that took his life. It was colon cancer but I do know that it is hard especially on his birthday!

Kathleen



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(((((hugs))))) and prayers.



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Sending you so much love Ness. I am so sad knowing you hurt so much. You are such a special person I was blessed to meet here at mip. love you,debilyn



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soo soo sorry, Ness....Can't imagine losing a child to this disease.....or anything for that matter......allow yourself to feel....treat yourself extra gentle.....

i don't know if this kind of grief ever completely goes away, but we can , with the program, come to accept it and continue on....

sending you comforting hugs......



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Thinking of you today, Ness.

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I am beyond grateful for all your love and support, thank you.

My day has been.....different; my husband is planning a porch build and decided he had to drive 80 miles to inspect some wood cladding he would like to use on I, did I want to go?  A trip to a sawmill?........not really......but I went

I can't begin to tell you the beauty we drove through to the sawmill, it's been a sunny & very windy autumnal day and our drive took us through the amazing mountains and natural woodland of the Cairngorms National Park......how could I not be cheered.......the colours were magnificent, a good day to be alive.

I feel at peace today.

Glad I was willing to go (even the sawmill was quite interesting!)

Love & gratitude to you all

(((((Ness))))) x



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I'm crying right now because of your post and the beauty your have described. To pray your precious son was there in spirit seeing you at peace.

You are in my heart and thoughts

((( hugs )))


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(((Ness)))

Thank you for  sharing on this special day.    I find that when I am open  I can see  and feel that that HP speaks to me every day and  in all circumstances. 

I am glad  that you took the trip wiith Hubby  and were touched by the beauty of nature.

I think that your son, gave you a Special  Gift on his Birthday

I pray that warm gentle memories of  him touch you today

 



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Thank you for your post, Ness. I thought about you off and on today and wondered how it went for you. So glad you did go with your husband and didn't stay home. You could have missed the beauty HP had in store for you and for your husband. I'll bet the scent at the sawmill was pleasant, too?

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((((Ness))))

Thinking of you.

 



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