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I've a feeling everybody is happy and going on with their life, except me. My a/a daugther is not answering her door, her phone and is off face book for about a week. Her brother said she is alright where ever she is, her adult son said he was tired of trying to check up on her and let his other brother go bye and check on her. He (the 18 y.o.) is pretty burned out with all of this and just want to finish high school and do his sports and activities. I went bye her apt. Tues with my son before he left town and she wasn't there or she didn't answer the door.
Now other family members are calling me re: her whereabouts. I'm hoping she decided to go into treatment, I've to cancel thoughts of her lying in the apt. dead. I'm praying to hear something from her to relieve my mind of this tension and anxienty. Thank God my 8 y.o. granddaughter is with her dad, and doesn't have to deal with this. Her dad did say she called a couple of wks. ago saying she wanted to come visit her daughter, of course, she didn't have any money to get there.
I'm so tired of this it takes so much energy!
Thank you for your prayers!
Gettingitright!!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
I have done it before. I called the police and explained my story and they did a home check on my son. I'm so sorry your going through this so I will say a prayer for you and your daughter that she will get a hold of you or somebody.
Take care and do what you need to do to have some peace my friend.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
That's scary stuff. I hope your daughter is okay. My son does this from time to time and I get so mad. Such a selfish rotten thing to do. I would do as Cathy suggested ask the police to check or report her missing and get your serenity back any way you can.x
My son disappears, too. I pray. I never know what the next disappearing act is going to result in for me to know. It's part of the disease. Their HP is with them even when we are not. I trust that. I believe that. I've seen evidence of it. That doesn't mean I don't get scared at times, but I've stopped checking as much for him. Generally, he's involved with stuff I don't want to be a witness to or involved in. He doesn't need me. He needs his HP and a program. All the talking, worrying, and being there with him or for him hasn't changed the disease a whit. Taking stock of where I am mentally, emotionally and physically and asking for prayer and support as you are is the most fruitful thing I've experienced in relationship to my son's disease. Until there's something he wants to truly do about it, there's really nothing more I can do that makes much sense or helps me stay calm and focused on me and the life that is mine to live.
