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I have been trying to let go of resentments for the last ten years they cause me to feel frustrated crazy and alone. It's like playing a tape over and over again so I can feel hurt, rejected and ashamed, inferior all over again. The steps suggest praying for the person and wishing them well.
Resentments poisoned most of my waking hours before I found Al-Anon. I could keep a fire under a resentment for days, or years, by constantly justifying why I felt the way I did. Today, although it is important to notice my feelings, I dont have to continually rehearse and re-rehearse my grievances. Its not necessary to keep reviewing how I have been hurt, to assign blame, or to determine damages.
Ultimately, I may not resolve everything with the person in questionthough that might be pleasant if it came to pass. I just want to be rid of the resentment because it prevents me from experiencing joy. I try to shift my energy to where it will do some good. I apply Steps Six and Seven because, to me, the way to let go of resentment is to turn to my Higher Power. I want to become entirely ready to have my Higher Power lift it, and I humbly ask for help.
Todays Reminder
If I am holding a resentment, I can simply ask for relief, for peace of mind in the present moment. I will remind myself that this relief will come in Gods time. Then I can grow quiet, be patient, and wait.
No man can think clearly when his fists are clenched.
Mahalo Sab and Green Eyes...from this side of the ocean...my sponsor taught me that If I don't like the consequences of feeling what I am feeling...feel the opposite and get the opposite. The opposite of resentment is forgiveness...gotta be practiced to become easier to work which is what I am currently pracitising...One of the tricks some of the local program members have and use is to practice a "burning" resentment. They write their resentment down on paper crumple it up and in a safe place...set it on fire; there for the burning resentment and it goes up in smoke and disappears. I've done it before and it worked good however I am so compulsive I sometimes think I might find the need to do it in the car or super market....hmmmm wud be a no no don't you thing? ((((hugs))))
I have been trying to let go of resentments for the last ten years they cause me to feel frustrated crazy and alone. It's like playing a tape over and over again so I can feel hurt, rejected and ashamed, inferior all over again. The steps suggest praying for the person and wishing them well.
there is but one person, i cannot do that for....and its "ok"...creator is'nt pushing me to do any more than just releasing the hate, revenge, resentment, illwill, etc.......that is enough.....just sending out energy of releasing any ill will and resentment towards a person....giving them over to karma and letting go of their lessons they need to learn........"wishing them well" is great if it is sincere, but if ya can't?? like me, 1 person, now dead, i could never wish "it' well, but i can give the person's soul over to the universe for disposition as i see me wash my hands of them and release the negative i feel for them.....willingness even works...being willing will work, it has worked for me
suddenly i wake up and i just say "he never was worth it...i am now ready to let it go".....believing in karma helps
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
