The material presented
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On Thurs. night my A arrived home so drunk, slurring her words, and barely able to keep her balance to walk. I asked her how she drove home and she didn't know. The realizations hit me: she is completely self-destructive still, she is unable to care how far back she sets our marriage, and the worst possibility, she could have killed an innocent person, child, or entire family. I feel she has the right to wreck herself and our marriage, but NOT an innocent victim. I was hoping the police had found her on her ride home but they didn't.
So here is the amazing part-I didn't go crazy. I didn't lose my sanity. I have been calm, sleeping rather well I must say, and so far, I am stable. I do not have to lose my mind and be miserable because she is ill and has no judgement to do the right thing. I can be OK, even if there is a tidal wave around me. I thank all of you, my sponsor, HP, and alanon. Love, Lyne
Thank you for sharing your growth through Awareness, Acceptance and action. It is rewarding to see that through the 3 As you choose the constructive action of "taking care of yourself" in spite of her set back
That is how it works
You have worked hard for this success . Enjoy it.#
Hi, Lyne. Good that you didn't allow the what ifs consume your thoughts and destroy your day. Nice work on staying in the moment and refusing to project. The changes in your wife may require some new boundary setting on your part and the same awareness and acceptance of your new reality with HP's guidance and strength will lead you to the next action step. I love seeing the program alive and at work in you. Thanks for the share.
It is incredible to me and a testament to the program and how seriously you are working it to see the development of your posts in terms of tone and your growth. Good for you!
Lyne...it appears that you were still trusting God even while fearful of consequences that didn't take place. Now that you are a bit more serene would be a good time to explore further boundaries because your vision of what could happen and often does happen is reality. If she didn't know how she got home she may have driven in a blackout and that isn't even good reality...she did it and didn't remember What ever she does will and does affect the whole family. Keep coming back, you've done good for yourself. (((((hugs)))))
