I knew that this was going to end badly... - Al-Anon Family Group

karma13 · Senior Member

I knew that this was going to end badly...

bijela · Veteran Member

My exboyfriend's drunken crazy cow sister has been harassing me on Facebook, so I blocked her. I sure hope that she won't start texting and calling me because I really don't want to have to change my phone number and screw up my business dealings by having to get all new business cards and contact everyone about the number change. =( I will probably have to because their entire family is crazy like that.

Now I am afraid to go back to Indianapolis for fear that they may physically harm me. I just had another job offer to move back again. But I guess I will have to turn it down to prevent being injured or killed.

I hate addiction. I hate chemicals and what they do to people. I am just so upset and furious right now that I am shaking.

I wish I never EVER even attempted to date him and get involved with that crazy, horrible family of his!

bijela · Veteran Member

Oh. Now she has been texting me calling me all sorts of names and threatening me. I downloaded an app that blocks numbers. I sure hope that works. I really do not want to have to change my phone number. That will be very expensive for my freelance art commission stuff and having to have new cards made.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I'd see this behavior on her part as an affirmation of my decision to end the relationship. We are powerless over the beliefs, feelings and actions of other people. Unfortunately, it sounds as if this family is very sick and very not in control of themselves. Good that you are blocking the reactions and not engaging with the insanity that is happening right now. If this continues in some way, can you contact local law enforcement to ask for guidance? Changing business cards and my telephone number seems a small price to pay for peace and rebuilding my life if that is what it takes to continue my choice to live free of the madness of a disease over which I have no power or control. I can understand why you'd be feel shaken right now. I can also understand why you wouldn't want to return to the area. No job is worth our well-being. You are certainly doing a good job of putting firm boundaries in place to take care of yourself. Hopefully, there is a meeting you can attend that might help you relax a bit. Meetings always helped me feel safe when very unpleasant things were happening in my life. In the meetings there was order, decorum and sanity. Sending prayers and encouragement to continue to take good care of yourself.

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

grateful2be wrote:
I'd see this behavior on her part as an affirmation of my decision to end the relationship. We are powerless over the beliefs, feelings and actions of other people. Unfortunately, it sounds as if this family is very sick and very not in control of themselves. Good that you are blocking the reactions and not engaging with the insanity that is happening right now. If this continues in some way, can you contact local law enforcement to ask for guidance? Changing business cards and my telephone number seems a small price to pay for peace and rebuilding my life if that is what it takes to continue my choice to live free of the madness of a disease over which I have no power or control. I can understand why you'd be feel shaken right now. I can also understand why you wouldn't want to return to the area. No job is worth our well-being. You are certainly doing a good job of putting firm boundaries in place to take care of yourself. Hopefully, there is a meeting you can attend that might help you relax a bit. Meetings always helped me feel safe when very unpleasant things were happening in my life. In the meetings there was order, decorum and sanity. Sending prayers and encouragement to continue to take good care of yourself.

i agree...also SAVE the texts, etc.....police and restraiing order may be the next thing....OR go to DV shelter and get their advice...as hard as jobs are to come by, these people should not be allowed to do this......sorry u r dealing with this.......this is why i prefer animals to most people...can't stand all the craziness....

I would contact a DV shelter and get their advice....cops.....restraining order........and block them in all ways...like i would disappear from them...........i would get some pro advice on this...

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((Bijela)))))...this is exactly the insanity which is spoken about in the program and rooms of Al-Anon. Do the first things first which is protect your own serentiy and safety as very best you can. The suggestions regarding getting public safety involved and keeping the evidence of the threatening calls and language is proper...it isn't fun or sane and necessary. Be safe (((((hugs))))) smile

bijela · Veteran Member

I didn't reply to her crazy behavior. Luckily the app on the phone seems to have done the trick. I just hope all this blows over and they just GO AWAY and focus thier hatred elsewhere. =(

She is truly insane. She needs to be put away.

I never engaged. I didn't respond to anything she said because that would just give her more motivation and ammunition. She will drink herself to death soon enough!

I did call the cops in case they decide to be crazy enough to drive over to Ohio to cause problems. =(

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

I have learned in recovery that if i don't "pick up their rope" they can't "tug at me"......the best way to starve a fire is give it NO air, NOTHING to burn and no more matches.....same w/ sick people......give them nothing to "glom onto" and their fire goes out.........negativity needs negativity in order to thrive......starve it w/ ZERO response......i practice that now and it truly works.....just don't "bite" or pick up that rope they throw out to bait ya........glad u contacted the police

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