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Post Info TOPIC: I had to break up with him. It was making me sicker.


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I had to break up with him. It was making me sicker.


I broke up with my boyfriend. His using just got so out of hand. Just as I thought, he completely flipped out and is now writing about it all over Facebook trying to make me look like a heartless b*** for dumping him on Sweetest Day.

 

=( I had no idea it was Sweetest Day or I would have waited to do it on Monday or something.

 

I feel like a complete monster and very guilty. 


What kind of b*** does that?



-- Edited by hotrod on Saturday 19th of October 2013 06:39:21 PM

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Stop beating yourself up! You did what you had to do to save yourself. There just comes a time, and it does not matter if it is a special day or not, that you have to take care of you and let him hopefully realize that he needs help also.

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deacon wrote:

Stop beating yourself up! You did what you had to do to save yourself. There just comes a time, and it does not matter if it is a special day or not, that you have to take care of you and let him hopefully realize that he needs help also.


 Thank you. <3 :(  I do hope that he gets help. I just can't get sicker and have constant seizures like I have been. I hope I can get the epilepsy back under control soon. 



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Hi Bijel

I would say that a very honest, women who was in enough pain ended the relationship on" Sweetest Day" because she could not handle the relationship any longer.  There is no shame in that



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What on earth is sweetest day?

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I'm glad you had the courage to do what you believe is right for you to do now. As far as breaking up with him on that Hallmark special day called Sweetest Day (maybe florists get extra flower orders, too?), has he ever done anything for you on this day? If today was the day you had the clarity of mind to do this and the energy to carry it through, then today was the day for you to end what you have said is a toxic relationship for you. You didn't break up with him to hurt him as it appears here? You broke up with him because you want to take good care of yourself. Thanks for sharing this. Sending you lots of support for doing what you saw was right to do for you.

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deacon wrote:

Stop beating yourself up! You did what you had to do to save yourself. There just comes a time, and it does not matter if it is a special day or not, that you have to take care of you and let him hopefully realize that he needs help also.


 omg...this post totally echos my feelings as well...who CARES what DAY it is.....its called self preservation and who caused this breakup??? he did.......I don't take responsibility for others bad behaviour and my having to exit and / or separate to take care of me........i SO agree w/deacon....



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