What if..... - Al-Anon Family Group

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

What if.....

Tracey C · Senior Member

A thought came to me before, if I knew I only had this day to live, who would I choose to spend it with? What behaviours would I accept to stay in the presence of? Then also, if my children only had this 24hrs, who would I like them to be with or who would they like to be with? Who would treat them the best? Just a thought....

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm with you, Debilyn. I'd want to spend my time with my kids and my grandson most. Of course, I'd tell them I'd want them to spend time with whomever they choose and then I'd give them "The Look." I'm okay with my kids spending their time with whomever they choose unless we only have 24 hours of life left - them or me - then I'd want us all to be together. If we only had 24 hours left with each other, I'd want us to be as we've always been together.

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

If I had only 24 hrs., I would go up to MD and take my daughter horseback riding.....out in the middle of nowhere , just her and me, chatting about anything we feel like......I would also love to take her to NH to see my sister, then we could go to NV to see my soul mate best friend........cramming a lot in 24 hrs., but I would brave the air planes to see their faces one more time...

VERY thought provoking post, thank you

Tracey C · Senior Member

Yeah. Guess I was thinking would I spend it with someone who has caused me pain like the alcoholics in my life? Would I want to spend it with anyone who was abusive towards me and if not why am I spending time with them now when today could be my last day here on earth. Does that make sense

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes That makes sense to me smile Good Question

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Good question. I wouldn't spend it with my ex that's for sure. Family. It's got to be. We should live life as if it's short and precious because it is. It's amazing to me that I spent most of my life in misery with an alcoholic but I can appreciate that's what it took for me to see the light. Im grateful I have this program and I now have a guide that helps me live.x

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

My son....his father and his stepmother.

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

My partner and both our families. Thank god I have those relationships now that I am sober. My addict thinking would be "What? This is the last day I have. I better get wasted and enjoy it!" Then proceed to check out and pass out.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I have to say that in some ways I've suffered things at the hands of my kids but they are still the most important people in the world to me. I know they've suffered some things at my hand, too. I just hope they'd want to spend their last hours with me, but that is something only they would know.

Rose50 · Senior Member

My 3 kids and my grandchildren.

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