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For the last two weeks my AM has done this daily: wake up, watch TV, read, talk on the phone, get drunk and go to bed... we (myself, my brother and my dad especially) are getting tired of it. It's at the point now where she doesn't eat dinner much less make it! I don't know if this is ironic or not but incidently, this Saturday is my birthday (I'll be 29)..we're going to have a sit down/family meeting with my dad, myself, my older sister (who doesn't live with us), and my brother (who does). My dad has so much anger towards her, its really affecting him..it's affecting us all. If you all could say some prayers/good thoughts our way I'd appreciate it..because I don't know what's going to happen but the only thing I know to do is to pray.. and hang onto my HP..because I need Him!!
I hope some of what I've said has made sense.
Thank you for listening.
It certainly sounds as if the family is upset and unhappy with the actions of your mother. As you are aware Alcoholism is a progressive fatal disease over which we are powerless. I do wish everyone would search out alanon face to face meetings and attend. Breaking the isolation caused by this disease is critical in learning how to interact with the alcoholic
Say what you mean, mean what you say but don't say it mean.
I would think that you are able to voice concern but at the same time don't put expectations on the alcoholic. Setting some boundaries individually might be helpful.
Much love and support
M
Phoenix maybe looking up the guidelines of an intervention and then following those rather than trying to shoot from the hip with anger might work better. I'm not suggesting hiring an interventionist as that might be costly and you could probably find what guidelines they use like each member reading a letter form to your mom on how a certain incident including her drinking affected that member and then going on to stating your love for her and then asking her to agree to rehabilitation or a boundary will be followed. You've already been guided with "say what you mean...mean what you say...don't say it mean". I hope your sitdown doesn't turn into a scalping party...be firm and remember she is a sick person and not a bad one and don't have the sitdown go on forever...that can be like going thru hell without a fire retardent suit on. Good luck...keep coming back.. (((((hugs)))))
Thanks to everyone for their advice. For whatever reason we didn't have a sit down with my AM.
For those of you who've been here longer than myself, do interventions work?
