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Gaby


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Well yesterday I got a lot of good words from a lot of you and today I said its about me.. My son called me at work today and said" mom I'm parked at this parking lot after I applied for a job and realized today is Friday and this is the first Friday home in months and I truly don't have good friends" " all my friends were either my dealers or my addict buddies" I'm sober and clean from all and they all stay away from me" I said well were they ever truly your friends ? " he said NO " I said stay humble " he said " amen ".. I couldn't or wouldn't add or ingage further because he does have to find his place out here.. But it made me feel good that I just stayed quiet. I could have said the wrong things. All I thought to myself during our conversation is what I told myself this morning. It's about me today. I'll worry about tomorrow when it comes :) thank you all..

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He has to find his place out there.  He does.  Him.  Himself.  The words you've shared hit the nail right on the head.  

What a wonderful reality check.  

Being a Mom has to be the toughest job on the planet.  From one mother to another stepping away to allow them their lessons and allowing them the dignity is crucial to their survival.  

Beautiful share, glad to walk this road with you Ms. Gaby. 



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Gaby maybe letting him know about this website for AA's could be a start, he can have access to people with similar shares and support....just an idea. in support og My son finally had to move to get away from the temptation in his old neighbor. No we can't run from our problems, but we can change our environment if it helps.....



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Good for you, Gaby. Stepping back, listening, refusing to try to guide or direct other than with Al-Anon principles - good work. And I know, Mother to Mother, it's very difficult, even painful in the beginning, but it does get easier with time and practice and recovery work ourselves.

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aww Awesome share Gaby... smile



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Good Job Gaby



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You did good, Gaby! Not engaging is something I need to work on.

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Excellent job Gaby..... You listened, you loved and thought before you spoke.

Detach with kindness..... you are letting him live with just your loving hugs.

(((( hugs ))))


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Beautiful - it works when you work it : )

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Gaby, that sounds like a wonderful interaction. I hear both of your programs at work. Good post.



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I'm so proud of you today. You are the kind of woman who lets her son learn and grow in his own time. Doesn't it feel good today?

In recovery,

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I can relate Gaby, I am often tempted to rush in with solutions and suggestions which really serve as a way to alleviate my fears and reinforce his neediness or need for rescue!! All lose,lose inputs. You did so well, I try hard with this also because when we just listen with no input the answers have time to come to the person on their own. I work with young people and we get some training in this and it is actually a really successful method when someone has a problem or an issue. Keep on keeping on.x

 



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