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MickeyLeigh


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Hi,  I am new to this site but have been learning and gaining knowledge about alcoholism for about 2 and a half years now.

My ABF and I have been together 3 years. He lived with me in the beginning for about 6 months.  I had to ask him to leave his

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behavior was making my daughters HATE him.

 He left drunk one day and got himself a skeezy hotel apt and said he still wanted to

see me. I stayed. Thing got worse. He was unemployed spent ALL day drinking and I eventually found out he was shooting cocaine.

I stayed. He went to a sober house for three months. He got a good job, new place and made decent money. He spent the majority

of it at the bars and I'm assuming more drugs. He hid that from me. He lost his job for medical reasons and once again was on

unemployment. He drank a lot. There were times I was in awe that anybody could be that loaded. I stayed. I think last night was

it. He was drunk we got into a fight. He was the usual blame shifting nasty crap it always is. I left and don't want to go back.



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grateful2be


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Hi, Mickey. Welcome to MIP. Are you a member of Al-Anon? If not, we suggest attending meetings, obtaining conference approved literature, learning and applying the steps and slogans, principles and traditions of Al-Anon. We know this disease has affected us and it is possible for us to gain contentment and peace with working this program even if the A keeps using. Please come back here, too.

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Jerry F


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Aloha Mickey and welcome to the board and MIP family.  You're in the right place and this is a huge family so stick around and listen to the ESH which is coming up (experience  strength and  hope).   If you have become addicted to him and the addiction chances are it would be very easy cutting the whole thing loose at first.  The definition of alcoholism in talking about the family, friends and associates of alcoholics and addict say "we become as sick or worse than the alcoholic because we don't have the anesthesia of alcohol to block out reality...therefore we go thru the whole thing wide awake."  That described me especially the "worse" part which I came to understand and question myself "she goes out gets loaded and drunk and comes home...you go to hell in a handbasket and stay in orbit".    The face to face meetings of the Al-Anon Family groups with the literature and such that Grateful mentions is what saved my life also.  Listen for more suggestions.   Keep coming back (((((hugs))))) smile



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