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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have a lot of projects that I need to complete or at least attempt. I am a procrastinator as my husband points out. We are working together to put up my swing. It has been a challenge but it is possible. I spent yesterday after trying to assemble the swing, working diligently in my back room. I found things & sorted things. I actually started looking for a pair of shoes. I am always looking for something. I wore myself out bending over & lifting things. This will be an ongoing project that I have been doing for years. We haven't finished putting up the swing. Today we are going to finish it so I can swing on it until winter hits & the snow falls. I am not going to let the cold air stop me. I am going to swing w/ a coat & gloves if I have to. I am determined to enjoy it. It was worth the money.
So, I don't have anything to complain about except clearing away the wreckage of my mom's past. She bought plants for her friends & didn't pay for them because she got sick. Should I be paying for them? She kept asking about paying the florist. I am tired of her bringing this up so I paid for them today. The bill was more than she said & besides, it wasn't even one that she remembered.
Nancy I was were you are a couple of years ago. Always looking for something, always putting off until the last minute and then rushing through things. Two years ago I made a New Year's resolution that I was tired of living like this, creating stress when I did not have to. So I cleaned out big time! I gave away, threw away, donated to thrift shops and burned. I simplified my surroundings, cut back on possessions and no longer held onto stuff just because it had been given to me or passed down or whatever. I kept three things that I treasured from my mom and got rid of all the other things. I stopped saving and collecting because 'some day these things are going to be worth a lot of money" Except twenty years later they are worth nothing and the kids don't want them. And I organized all the bills and statements and have forced myself to deal with paper clutter as it comes in not let it pile up on the counter for a month.
You cannot believe what a relief it was to purge! The house looked so much bigger, there was less to dust and all those boxes in the basement were gone. I had not realized how much better I would feel without the weight of those useless possessions. Believe me, if I could do this and keep it up then so can anyone else because I was the queen of holding on and putting off.
When my mom passed we also found there were some bills to pay that we were unaware of. And yes, we were ticked also but we did it and I am glad we did. I do not think that you are responsible for your mom's bills though so it should be your choice.
That sounds just like me! Procrastinating. I am working on that. This weekend I started to finish the sunroom/dining room in my house that has been unfinished for 17 years. I have two walls left to paint and then a little trim and the room is done. It feels good. Really good! My plan is to go room to room and get it done...little by little.
I was tickled by your post...and the swing. I could have done my house - room by room this summer but instead I moved and put up my new hammock stand. I installed a front brick walkway.
Since the divorce...I don't feel like procrastinating that way I used to. Maybe the absence of the naysayer...and the return of my self-confidence. Who knows?
