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When we separate the person from the disease we can do it. They are a sick person and not a bad person. What they do is often (not always) unacceptable and they are always a child of God. God accepts them unconditionally and I can strive to do the same thing. It takes an open mind and it takes practice. When I learned to hate the disease of alcoholism and drug addiction and could recognize my wife without it then I came to understand. Everyday we meet and are around people who carry the disease of alcoholism and drug addiction. The one we live with affects us most and that is the one we detach from just like all the others. It was freedom for me when I learned it and I then had a wife I loved who was very sick and at times I wouldn't be around her or involved. Keep coming back...
-- Edited by Jerry F on Saturday 5th of October 2013 12:14:51 AM
Detaching with love from the effects of alcoholism.
This was one of the topics that was being shared at tonight's MIP meeting. I arrived late so didn't get to take part in most of the meeting, but the underlined part really gave me pause.
Thinking of detaching from the effects instead of from the A is really a novel thought for me.
We can detach from the disease and not the person by keeping the focus on ourselves, living one day at a time, refusing to project into the future, or the past, . We also can do this by refusing to justify our behavior, argue, defend, or engage in disputes or arguments
. We validate our assets and say what wee mean , mean what we say and don't it say it mean. We pray and trust HP to guide our lives
It is a process and takes time, meetings and the Steps to be able to make it work.
We can detach from the disease and not the person by keeping the focus on ourselves, living one day at a time, refusing to project into the future, or the past, . We also can do this by refusing to justify our behavior, argue, defend, or engage in disputes or arguments
. We validate our assets and say what wee mean , mean what we say and don't it say it mean. We pray and trust HP to guide our lives
It is a process and takes time, meetings and the Steps to be able to make it work.
When we separate the person from the disease we can do it. They are a sick person and not a bad person. What they do is often (not always) unacceptable and they are always a child of God. God accepts them unconditionally and I can strive to do the same thing. It takes an open mind and it takes practice. When I learned to hate the disease of alcoholism and drug addiction and could recognize my wife without it then I came to understand. Everyday we meet and are around people who carry the disease of alcoholism and drug addiction. The one we live with affects us most and that is the one we detach from just like all the others. It was freedom for me when I learned it and I then had a wife I loved who was very sick and at times I wouldn't be around her or involved. Keep coming back...
-- Edited by Jerry F on Saturday 5th of October 2013 12:14:51 AM
