The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Step 1: I walk on a pathway, and I stumble over and fall into a hole in front of me i didn't see. I fall inside, and due to my deep wounds, i die inside, impossible to get out, helpless, not able to scream for help.
Step 2: I walk on a pathway, I fall into a hole in front of me, as I'm down there I curse the world and the people who made that hole, and stay trapped, isolated, full of anger, thinking how unfair the world is. People passing by want to help, for they see me hurt, but I curse them, shout on them, making them responsible for that hole in the road and not warning me.
Step 3: I walk on a pathway, I fall into a hole in front of me, as I sit down there and have some time in the dark, i sit and think and look for ways to get out. When a person walks by, i scream and ask for help, I reach out my hand to his hand and I pull myself out of the hole
Step 4: I walk on a pathway, I see a hole in front of me, I walk carefully around.
Step 5: I walk on a pathway, I see a whole on that path, i decide to take another pathway...there are so many.
step 3 if I am not familiar w/the territory, I ask for help and when I get out I blow it off and i learn my lesson to not go that way again...
OR if I gotta go to same destination and no time to figure out another way, STEP 4 but I pay attention and watch for that hole to step around it
AND lots of times, now, I am not afraid to say "hey instead of walking around that hole, lets try another way to get there......IF it is safe to do so...."
just my take
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Thanks HP