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I have to say that I really like the advantages of that. I just included my brother in a response to someone's post and vallah after three months of not hearing a peep from him, he texts me bright and early this morning shortly after I posted here. I'm sad at the condition of our relationship but glad to not speak with him. Even his text just reeks of control. No greeting, he begins it with "Be advised." Don't get me wrong I love him and I empathize with where he is at. He isn't in recovery from alcoholism or growing up with it but he talks at me not to me when he calls. It's kind of like standing outside a lion's cage, being roared at and grateful for what separates you from that lion. But he's my brother and I miss him so much so even his skewed thinking texts at least let me know he's alive. Anyway... just needed to get that out. Going out with one of my gf for dinner and a few laughs. Thanks for reading and being here. Hugs! TT
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(((TT))) I love your awareness and compassion! I agree that from a distance can be a good thing. "Be advised???" I admire how you're working the program.
What an awesome analogy- standing outside a lion's cage, being roared at..." For the times when it becomes a struggle, please consider adding a sign that says, "Don't feed the lion!"
I hope you have a great time with your friends tonight!
My oldist male sibling whom I completely dissociated from told my little brother , who was shattered to hear that, how he was going to kill me.....ALL b/c I came forward about the abuse...At first I thought it was a joke, just ranting, but my bro who is next to me in age, separated from this very same brother bc of his sick fantasies how he wanted to "punish" me for coming forward....His wish was for me to either kill myself or just keep the secret which would have finally driven me insane, perhaps.....Oh yea, better I die or go nuts then to come forward about his "daddy dearest".......My bro. next to me loves me and supports me and when he heard all that sick crap, he disconnected from that BIG time...He made it very clear to me that "J" was NOT joking...
I am not really afraid of him here b/c in TX ,(he lives in MA) we have the sunset law where I can legally use deadly force to protect me and I have no qualms about protecting my life....He knows this through my younger brother, so I doubt he wants to fight me on my turf....cops are my friends b/c I started a fine neighborhood watch here and we have over 150 members in the neighborhood and THEY know about the male sibling's threats to me and I am well liked here bc I watch over the young children, they all know they are safe b/c "mama lioness" is watching over them..., I've watched many grow into nice adults.......So no worries...He aint welcome around here....
sooo sad for ANYone to harbor such hate for a sister who just wanted to not be mentally sick anymore.........As I recover, I hear he continues to view life from the bottom of a beer bottle as he keeps making bad karma.......NOT my business,I don't care...I am GR8ful that I am 1700 miles away from him, recovering and slowly cleaning up my life of toxic people.....
and people wonder why I love animals more than most people, LOL .....I have had enuf of humans and their cruelty to other creatures, even their own kind......but the good, sweet, loving ones that i am blessed with, I treasure and enjoy their company....my 2 younger bros. who are also A's but non violent ones are sweet and I send them love and healing and I also ask the angels and the light to help them to surrender to the LOVE of this program....that is all I can do....
sorry your bro. does not see the beauty in you that we recovery mates see.....His loss......and YOUR working a GREAT program........LOVED the Lion cage picture......
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Thanks (((bud))) I love the sign! Great sense of humor!
I did have a great time. I had just seen this gf a few weeks ago but she another of her friends was flying in from the state where I grew up. I rarely meet anyone here that's from there so I asked my friend if I could join them. It was a wonderful opportunity to connect with someone new and hear what's going on these days and reminisce about the growing up years there.
It was another gift from my hp and this program. I didn't think of my brother (it is what it is) and I slept well. Thanks for sharing with me. TT
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Thanks for your encouragement and support (((neshema))) We are very lucky to have this program and people who understand. It's great that you've been proactive in creating a nice safe neighborhood. It sounds like you have a network of good people in your corner and that you're adding value to their lives as well. Glad you keep coming back to share with us here. TT
Hey TT.....oh yea, re: the neighborhood.....we are a bunch of good, but crazy red necks and indians and other mixes who will NOT stand for predators in the neighborhood.....all the children know they can come to me if mom or dad is not around and i will help them....
I had the nicest thing said to me....Xross the street one of our little "kids" came home to her mom's house...kids in tow, while hubby is in the service out of country now...
she arrived a couple of weeks ago....sees me coming out to check the mail an she is now 30....she runs accross the street, grabs me and hugs and kisses me and was so happy to see me.....I lovingly chastised her about not watching b4 she darted xross the street....
she told me "oh, all my life, we kids called u mama lioness b/c we all knew we were safe with you" and I was sooo delighted......SHE was the one who started my name....."Mama Lioness"
b/c in africa the african lioness is a natural mother.....doesn't matter if it is her cub or not....she is gonna make sure that cub or cubs are safe......I always did that and this young lady, now beautiful grown mother herself, told me what my "nickname" was around the neighborhood......I told my other "little cub" who lives in the house directly xross from me, next to this other young lady....."is it true??? did u kids call me mama lioness????" and "R" said "oh yea, we STILL do"
I thought that was SO majorally cool.....I am good friends w/these young folk's parents........its nice to know that the kids felt safe w/me b/c I would fight tooth and nail B4 I let harm come to a small child......
anyway TT.....I am glad U R here sharing w/all of us too...:) :) :)
-- Edited by neshema2 on Thursday 3rd of October 2013 06:17:00 PM
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Thanks for your encouragement and support (((neshema))) We are very lucky to have this program and people who understand. It's great that you've been proactive in creating a nice safe neighborhood. It sounds like you have a network of good people in your corner and that you're adding value to their lives as well. Glad you keep coming back to share with us here. TT
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