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Im a 23 yr old singe mom who grew up with an alcoholic for a mother and an absent father. I was put into the CYS at the age of 12 and stayed there till i was 18. My mother passed away 2 years ago in feb and now i am struggling with more issues than i ever had while she was alive. I am now a 23 yr old single mom who is havng trouble coping with my childhood and growing up the way i did wishing i had answers for questions i know that even if she was i alive i would never get the truth too. My mother died without meeting her granddaughter because i had to make the decision on wether or not she should have to go through what i went through and i decided she didnt deserve it. I was just wondering if someone out there has ever gone through anything like this and could maybe give me some advice on how to get through this situation in my life.
Hello. Welcome to MIP. There is a site for adult children of alcoholics on our board. You might try that board for help with childhood issues? We also have some posters on our Al-Anon board who had difficult childhoods that might weigh in on this board, too. It has been my experience that in order to survive some childhood traumas, we suppress or repress memories. When we're stronger and more ready to face some of the trauma, then some of those memories begin to surface. You might also want to contact someone that a friend might recommend to help you with some of these issues, too, who is skilled in this area? Good that you are reaching out for help and that you chose to protect your daughter, too. Both healthy choices to my way of thinking!
I am so very sorry to read of the loss of your mom and of the painful childhood that you experienced. I am happy that you found Miracles in Progress because it is here that you will find many who understand as few others can. Alanon is a fellowship of men and women who live with, or have lived with the problem of alcoholism. We who have grown up with this disease have developed many destructive tools to cope with life. These tools worked when we were children but fail us in the adult world.
Alanon has face to face meetings in most communities You can find the locations by checking the white pages. Meetings are important because they help break the isolation caused by living with the disease Sharing our experience, strength and hope in a safe room helps us to rediscover our true feelings and ourselves There is hope and help.
Please keep coming aback here as well. You are not alone
