Today, Saturday was the last day that the gal at the front desk worked....

We have quite a history...She came to work a year after I...At first it was "ok"  then one day we were facebooking , chatting and she is AT WORK...doing this on company times...I was at home...I realized this and told her I was signing off..She got mad..wanted to chat more and I said  "when U get off work, then we will chat...I am not gonna do this while you are at work"

I just did not feel right..doing that on company time...i didn't judge her...didn't berate her...just stated my refusal to chat w/someone whom i know is being paid to WORK...

so ended our "tentative" cordiality at work....she began a "nasty campaign" against me....I just ignored it....she did her best to bait me....I ignored it.....acted as if she wasn't there.......

THEN i realized....maybe if i "kill her with kindness" she will either implode or straighten up, but really....i did not care....i wanted to be the professional one, and deliberately ignoring her wasn't working and maybe bosses noticed my absolute "erase job" re: her existence

so the smile and "GOOD morings" began......"Have a nice weekend"   ....OR...when she was nasty to me during my stay, I would say   "Gee *P* I am sorry U R having another bad day"  and I would always walk off....smiling like a cheshire cat.....I  kept this up , breathing hard so as to fight off the nausea i felt being around this woman who went out of her way to "get me"

it all backfired on her one day when she got rude and nasty to me in front of a customer....i accidentally took her water bottle, thinking it was mine...walked about 6' with it, turned around...returned it to her and apologized for my mistake and she went ballistic...accusing me of "touching her water"  i laughed and kinda just smiled and "zoned out" as she blew up and the CUSTOMER stpped in and told her  "lady what is your problem??? the lady took your bottle...did an about face...returned it...apologized.....so why are you such a B**** to this nice person????"

well I wanted to hug the guy, but of course I didn't.....i just grinned at him and nodded a "thank you" to him and he made his car payment and exited......miss personality was absolutely red faced with embarrassment...

i smiled and walked away

later, things got  "better" between us....she , I guess had to "surrender" of sorts to my refusal to engage with her OR to be mean, so i guess she decided it was better to be nice....and she was , lets say, tolerable from that point on...

so wed. she comes into work...i am not there....and she tells the bosses,  "This Sat. is my last day", I am going back to my old job at this bank.......now if the bank told her she would lose out on the benefits and better job if she didn't take it "now"  , i can understand her shorting her bosses on the "notice"  , not for me to judge

anyway, I show up on Fri. my day and everyone announces to me she is leaving and I already posted about her computer going down and I just could not get this one program to work, got the others, but not the important one and the boss's wife goes off on me, you guys already read that in my  "must draw this to me"  post, so I won't go there again,  however, the other gal was pretty decent to me all day.......i am thinking   "one of the hyenas" is leaving...good....she used waaay too much personal stuff on company time, bosses will be blessed in the end....hopefully they will find someone who dresses a bit more respectable and actually does company stuff on company time....

anyway, i was kind to her....not nasty or gloating like the old me would have been,  i was really nice to her...i wished her the best...said she was headed for a great future and as a single mom, she needed the insurance and other bennies  and "good luck and God bless"  

Well today, I wrote her a PM on her facebook  (she is NOT a friend but she takes "open"messages)  anyway, I wrote her a note wishing her the absolute best and that I hoped this new adventure grew into something really neat for her and signed it w/a  "smiley face" thing at the end

i was going to log off FB and b/c I wrote her, she could reply  (my pm is only accessible to friends or folks I message)  anyway, she writes me a note telling me how much that meant to her to see this nice note from me  and she put a smily on hers...

I thought  even 3 years ago, 2 years...i could not have done that....i would not have wish her well and good luck.....i would have been envious that HER finances will improve while mine circle the drain.....I would have cussed out God showing the nasty ones the favor and dissing us ones who are trying to do what is right.....

but ya know??? I just said  "to heck with it...something HAS to break for me and I dont' know her situation, this job will demand good dress attire and also punctuality, etc."  and   I just thought that my being in the "hallway"  waiting and waiting and waiting , sometimes I want to give up and say "screw it, I am not gonna make it so coast until I sink" 

but I just thought i am gonna keep putting out good energy and if there IS a helping caring HP, something HAS to give for ME.....i sure have been waiting for a long time...and NO sign of it lifting...

do I want another in my crappy, stressed filled situation??? NO!!! Of course not....if I sink, I will go down w/the Titanic w/my dignity and  i also realize that i gotta BE lovable to receive love....from the universe too....

So i wish this little gal the best...and when i go to work on friday, i will smile....myob....do my job.....leave......just like i always do

yea, the program is subtle...sometimes its a BIG  WOWZA breakthrough, then it is also a subtle, like a soft wind and the air around my aura smells fresher

thanks for letting me share