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Maybe my thinking is off on this, but I find myself no longer caring if working my program makes a difference for somebody else? Although I do want to carry the message, the results of that carrying of it simply doesn't interest me as much as it once did. What's more important to me is whether or not working my program has helped me enjoy living and loving myself more than I once did. If not, then am I really working my program? If so, I guess for me, that is the outcome/the result that I truly seek. I spent so many years focused on other people, maybe not being so focused on other people is exactly where working my program has led me? Maybe the way I view progress now will change, too? I guess continued recovery will reveal the answer to today's question?
-- Edited by grateful2be on Saturday 21st of September 2013 08:42:20 AM
I would say this is definitely a sure sign of a huge step in recovery. Practicing these principles in all our affairs as the 12 ThStep suggests, carries this message as no other can
Maybe my thinking is off on this, but I find myself no longer caring if working my program makes a difference for somebody else? Although I do want to carry the message, the results of that carrying of it simply doesn't interest me as much as it once did. What's more important to me is whether or not working my program has helped me enjoy living and loving myself more than I once did. If not, then am I really working my program? If so, I guess for me, that is the outcome/the result that I truly seek. I spent so many years focused on other people, maybe not being so focused on other people is exactly where working my program has led me? Maybe the way I view progress now will change, too? I guess continued recovery will reveal the answer to today's question?
-- Edited by grateful2be on Saturday 21st of September 2013 08:42:20 AM
To me, I see you just accepting your powerlessnes over others....like "ok, I will plant the seed and if it grows?? great...if not??? ok, I tried".....U r waaay to caring for me to buy anything else.....i see you just accepting the "live and let live" truth of the program.......and yes, whether or not it is helping YOU enjoy living and loving YOU...whats wrong w/that??? I am at the same place, so we can be "off" together, LOL...I plant the seed...toss some good water on it......let go.....let the other take what they like and discard the rest......U R working your program very healthy from my vision.....I see big growth in you...I see it in me...b/c I am thinking right along in agreement w/you......I see U as growing within yourself, like me and no worries.........Sending you big support HUGSSSSSS
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Hi Grateful, great share. To me it sounds like you have a healthy attitude where the people in your life are firmly in their place where they should be with you at the top of the list. Great example of where recovery can take you, can't wait to get there.x
I think it is a wonderful attitude. There is a page in odat that talks about "if we change then they have to change". But that puts all the pressure on me to change and watch the others to see if they notice and work harder to change some more....blah, blah blah. I dont care if they change. I dont care if they even notice anything. I can detach and live my life to make myself happy and not worry about anyone else.
Thank you all for taking the time to read my post and for all your e/s/h. I was so struck this morning by my own inner detachment from so much of what used to take up quite a bit of my attention, I thought I'd better check this out. It was a strange sensation because it was such a new interior experience. Hugs to you all.
