Isolating begin today - Al-Anon Family Group

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Isolating begin today

Ms co-dependent · Senior Member

Hi I'm not in my head or in my body I don't no where I am . My home is now a house of secrets the doors are closed and whispering begins . I have broke down my walls and busted my bubble I am open to all around me to gain access to . I'm scared my confusion has taking over me. I pray that my break down does not have my husband drink if this happens my house will be gone. My family will be lost . I'm just looking for prays for all of us . I'm to tired from his recovery I will be taking a vacation to figure out how I got lost here.

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

Rosemary

You are worried about your husband drinking because you are feeling pain and not able to detach? Time to take care of you my friend and see your doctor if you have that much disconnect. Then you need to YES take the vacation.

Do you have any Al-anon literature or books. Please read if you do. Please go to a meeting and get all the literature you can.

I would recommend you read " Getting them Sober" by Toby Rice Drew. If you can't get one PM me and I will send you my old one. Its falling apart but it's still readable.

Please take care and don't worry about his recovery...you need to start yours.

(((( hugs ))))

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Your not lost, you have just have kept the secret for so long and now its come to the surface and too much to absorb all at once. Then you married an oppresive sick man. You have been sitting on a time bomb for a long time.

Its time to stop and rebuild yourself to the person you were meant to be and rid your life of all the dark spaces.

I agree with Cathy , you need to see a professional therapist to help you sort it all out.

My hope for you is that you will come out into the sun and fill your life with light.

Hugs, Bettina

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi,

I agree with Cathy and Bettina ,I don't think you are lost either, I think you are unable to detach from him and take care of you

Please, I urge you to get in touch w/a therapist as well.....someone who can help you put this all in perspective.......when we can't let go and detach from something or someone over which/whom we ar powerless, the feelings of helplessness come in and we are wrecked.......its hard keeping the focus on me sometimes, but I just MAKE me do it...I call my co-sponsor, or a trusted recovery mate or my sister who is ret. mental health counselor .........oh yea, reach out, little lady.....you deserve to be free from this darkness.....

Ms co-dependent · Senior Member

Thank you I have the best therepist helping me with current and past events my A is in my head again and being spiteful I love this board but I'm also taking a chance on him reviewing it . I would love email address to pass some other info along I can't do on here for u to see what I'm up against . He is the same man minus the drink if anything the control has increase because of my other issues . I have other hot lines I'm using to now that are legal and documented for problems I'm having .

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Good Work Ms C

You can use the" PM feature" on the Board to private message people if that helps

Ms co-dependent · Senior Member

I only have the phone app to use this sight if I had the full version i would have to use the house computer which that's not secure . The way I'm looking at it is what ever happen will happen I'm tired I gave up already I made drastic changes in my routine to make all happy but me. There is something missing from this problem and till I can find it acknowledge it there will be no peace . I don't want a quick fix to get me thru the days I want to be able to live with out fear . I see my dr tomorrow . You no what gets my tail . Is when A can use my woman hood as a reason why I'm cranky I get that all the time tossed at me . You need some chocolate ? Remarks like that get me upset this nightmare has changed to comedy hour . He acts like my mood always has to be perfect for his world of sobriety . Gilt trip needs to go . He drinks that's his trash I'm tired of being tossed around in every direction but the right one . I don't have many days of positive and out spoken days

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Rosemary

I am glad you are seeing your doctor tomorrow Pleae talk to him about what is going on.

In order to Private Message anyone on the Board Just "Click "on that persons name

A new screen will appear and you will see the person's outline and there you will find the aiblity to Private message. Click on the "Send Message box and you can type a private messge to that person

Good luck

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