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My husband started drinking about 8 years ago. It was not all the time, day in and day out, but he drank. He has quit before and I always felt wow, okay, we can go on. But, it did not last long. I finally told him two months ago I could not do this anymore and that he would have to leave. He was gone for 4 days. He came back, started counseling and so far so good. He told me that was the best thing that ever happened to him. He did not want to lose me or his family. But, I still worry. Anytime he acts the least bit different I panic. I can see now (today) that I need a lot more work on myself. I cannot control him or our future...only me. Thanks.
I love the term radical acceptance .. I don't know why I can do that so much easier than accepting the things I can not change. Way to work your recovery program. :)
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I have always felt go with your gut. And for me it is almost always on. I found the vodka. I guess my gut told me he was off and he is drinking. Two months was nice. I cannot control it. I am very weary of the whole cycle. I know everybody in this forum understands what I am talking about and how I feel. Thanks.
Yes, Jen. I agree that we get it and how you feel. It does get old and then we get better. So glad you posted. Isn't it nice to have a place to go like Al-Anon meetings and MIP where support and understanding abounds? Going with your gut sounds incredibly self-knowing. The disease would like us to believe it - not our own instincts. Ha-ha. You lost on this one, disease. Jen didn't believe your lies. (((J)))
He came back, started counseling and so far so good. He told me that was the best thing that ever happened to him. He did not want to lose me or his family. But, I still worry. Anytime he acts the least bit different I panic. I can see now (today) that I need a lot more work on myself. I cannot control him or our future...only me. Thanks.
GOOD on you....realizing that we are pwerless over others is a HUGE relief, actually, it takes the burden off of us and onto them and their higher power........and your not alone in the "I need a lot more work on myself" Who, here, does not?????? i know i am not where I want to be, however I am a long way from what I used to be........and yes, we can only control ourselves and even that is contingent on how seriously we work our program....I know for myself, I have to be diligent....when I learn something and practice it I have to do "maintenance" work.......we never graduate.....only progress to a healthier level......GOOD JOB, Jen.....
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