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Alanon has helped me alot, combined with all the self-help books I have read, first hand experience and I think age too I have come to a few conclusions....no matter what I have "choices". Looking back on my marriage and consequently my divorce, I concluded that it was HIS fault that he made me do this, or feel like this etc, etc.
But the truth was I had choices then too, no one could make me feel like a failure,or dumb, most of the bad things that happened in our marriage was my fault too, I was not innocent. No one in the world can make me "feel" a certain way unless I give them "permission", and that was my biggest mistake. No one has any control over me unless I give them that control. So now I have my own power to be there or not, to let it go or worry, to move on or not, to kick him/her out or not. It makes me sad that it took me so long to realize this. But I pass this on to you and remind you that no matter who you are or what kind of childhood you led, you can give yourself permission to change and make your life YOUR choices, you are not a captive or a victim and if you feel you are there is help out ....oldergal
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
A few years into al anon, my future sponsor approached me after a meeting and simply said, "you have choices". It was simple, profound and perfectly timed. I was grateful.
Thank you so much for sharing.
That is the power of the program, realizing we have choices and owning them and our responsibility to change our thinking and perceptions.
