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Hello all, I am teaching a class this morning in my home that I haven't taught in several years and am so anxious. On top of this, my daughter is starting a new job this morning and she is anxious, and my cat is following me around anxiously meowing, wanting me to feed her more. I am applying my steps and slogans to the best of my ability, doing pretty well at not being all co-dependent to my daughter and cat....a bit of calming from my MIP peeps would be oh so appreciated! Thank you
You are an intelligent, bright, capable professional who knows the subject matter in depth and are an excellent communicator. The class will run smoothly and the students will benefit.
Holding positive thoughts for you.
PS Kitty does not need more food and your daughter will also succeed
Say some prayers and let it rip! It's my motto for these types of situations. I find it truly is best to fly by the seat of your pants. Harness the anxiety to be productive. Perhaps part of the anxiety is excitement and that's not bad right?
I feel anxiety when I'm preparing for a future event. It helps me to remind myself that my job is only to prepare as best I can and to turn everything over into my HP's hands to work through me. The results are HP's part. My willingness to show up as prepared as I can be - mine.
Even when I'm not as prepared as I think I should have been - the results are always surprisingly good - when I turn myself and the event into the hands of HP. You are willing. You are prepared. You believe in your HP. Everything will turn out as it will and maybe surprisingly good. Blessings, Paula.
P.S. - my cat is a hog and she needs Overeaters Anonymous. She is almost as round as she is long now. We had a party a week ago and everyone commented "Wow, that is a big cat!!!" I felt like a bad dad. Perhaps we can sign our cats in for an online meeting later?
On the subject of cats: We fix 'em. We fatten 'em. At least this is my experience with my male cat. I give him exactly what is on the package for his weight. Use weight control cat food. He still is a big cat. He still thinks he can go out and "make friends." Signed him up for a recovery group several years ago for neutered cats but he just got into fights with everybody. I've just learned to keep the focus on me. Nothing I have tried to do with him has worked.
Hugs pp, I do what pink says .. negative emotions can be harnessed and used keep doing the next right thing! Hugs p :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Ah, many gifts of recovery; we find our sense of humor, we acknowledge our insecurities and welcome support. I said my prayers and plucked the wild chin hairs...all is well!
Breathe. Bring your wonderful humor and enjoy the moments and look beyond the "limitations of perfectionism". You haven't done it in a while, but you're likely to slip right into the groove like getting back in the saddle. When I am in a position like this, I start off making eye contact with a smile and say "good morning" or "hi..." , the smiling with breathing a greeting is very calming for me. Wishing you the best today!
My old sponsor used to remind me to "Suit up and show up"; I was responsible for the effort, but not the outcome.
Thank you for sharing so openly here.
As for your daughter, (coming from a daughter myself and a co-dependent mother), trust in the fact that allowing her to experience whatever she is experiencing is the most LOVING thing you can do for her. It enables her to grow.
Well, the class went very well despite my husband's anti-perspirant NOT doing its job! I am so glad I posted, as your comments relaxed and supported me. A heartfelt thanks
Great news! Glad you got to do this, too!