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Thank you all and thank you Neshema :) I learned that in the program so I am making progress...and I accept I will never be perfect. I know she's not ready, she knows I work a program, if she was ready she would ask to go to a meeting. I can't help her though, just me. I'm working on me every day, it's a inside job (wink)..every day, I'm reading, meditating and praying and exercising...one day at a time...enjoying peace and serenity when it's mine to have... Tomorrow I'm going to both of my meetings Alanon and Coda. Hope you have a wonderful blessed weekend PS I loved what you wrote on someone elses thread about the horror stories..lol...I too have lived the horror stories of going into a store with my dry A..and him raising hell, cursing, etc. and me wanting to crawl into the floor. So about two years ago.. I detached I figured it's not me raising hell. I used to take all that energy on... feel those feelings..feel embarassed for what? lol I wasn't doing anything,,but I had learned it from childhood.. I got real aware once I started working this program and reading self help books....so for the past two years..I would just stand there and let it happen...I made a decision this week though...I'm going to walk away the next time he does it and maybe I will even leave the store and go get in my car...
-- Edited by karma13 on Friday 6th of September 2013 02:55:18 PM
-- Edited by karma13 on Friday 6th of September 2013 02:56:02 PM
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I needed these behaviors in my past they helped me survive I'm finding new and better ways to not just survive but thrive
I have a friend here in town with me, I'm going through my own stuff, so I just listen to her. She is not in a place, to even think about recovery, because she is still in denial about her relationship with this toxic man. I have my own issues to deal with, so I can just listen to her and I feel her pain because I have been there and done that rodeo. She is a very close friend, and this situation could turn violent, I can only be there to listen, detach and pray for her, so if anyone else would please send a prayer her way, it would be much appreciated:) Thank you~ hope everyone has a great weekend :)
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I needed these behaviors in my past they helped me survive I'm finding new and better ways to not just survive but thrive
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Sent......I am also glad to see that you know your limits re: helping her...she has to want to help herself....I am hoping that U R working a strong program for you and working on you....You are the only one that you can really help....prayers to BOTH of you
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Prayers. It sounds like you're working a good program! Good decision listed here when the A throws a temper tantrum in the store. I left my A jumping up and down in a restaurant parking lot once throwing a fit about something I don't remember. I just drove on home. He was an adult who could walk off his energy without me spending any time enduring it. Last time he ever tried that with me. And I'm not saying it'll work for you. I just know that temper tantrums ignored with no one in the room start to feel real stupid to the one throwing them. (If a tree falls in the forest, is there a sound if there's no one there to hear it? Grin)
-- Edited by grateful2be on Friday 6th of September 2013 09:24:08 PM
