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I wanted to share something which I have experienced much and paying attention to over the past 10 years. It is a way of getting to know yourself, learning to listen to your inner voice and trusting your 'gut' as some would name it.
It all began over 10 years ago when I entered therapy and further on moved to analysis. I was pretty sleepless those days, due to inner turmoil. Needless to say that the fatigue that came as a consequence took much of my capacities to handle life on a healthy basis away. So , good sleep is very important to a healthy mind, and healthy actions. But tormented sleep happens, to all of us. for it's part of life, of who we are. We are actually very ACTIVE during those hours, sub-consciesly. I reported nightmares, many and much of the time. For analysis woke up some issues in my life. so my mind kept working on those issues during sleep. I was told to acknowledge each dream. I was told to put a diary by the side of my bed, and as soon as I would wake up, write down the snapshots I remembered, for they disappear quite quickly, they are registered in our short-time memory. But they have deep meaning nevertheless. That's when my work with my dreams began. And I learned so much along them, since then.
Since then I know, if I have deep and peaceful sleep, my life is quite balanced. If I dream a lot, and sometimes have nightmares, I know that I should listen to that voice, which is trying to tell me something, that in waking life I am trying to avoid or deny.
so recently my nightmares started again. and I listened again. Yesterday's dream for example: A green snake came towards me and I stepped on it and it bit me in the foot....and the pain in the leg woke me up. I researched the symbol of that dream later on....it said: a snakebite is a wake up call, 'The snake bite is a wake up call to face whatever is causing tension, perhaps even challenge some of your core beliefs or values and get a fresh perspective.
The serpent is delivering the antidote to numbing yourself and avoiding what needs to be done to get to the next step in your life. The snake bite may point to a shift occurring in your awareness, a transformation: You are on the verge of becoming more aware about a matter that was previously hidden or avoided.
Dreaming of being bitten by this wild reptile can be interpreted as a painful reminder that you need to pay attention to a situation or relationship that has been challenging or difficult to deal with in your waking life. A snake biting you in a dream symbolizes your own guidance system or unconscious trying to get your attention through a wake up call.'
Interesting isn't it. regarding the situation that ex A texted me last night , trying to push my buttons and provoking me, projecting on me his own fear and guilt.
Just a tool, that I wanted to pass on. Listening to my dreams has showed me hidden parts of me, consciousness and awareness I thought i didn't have. It is my own personal alarm system, indicator of what is going on in my life. maybe this is useful to some of you.
My inner voice is really caring for me...I just don't listen all the time! but growing.
Listening even further would be changing your phone number to not get texts from someone that abused you. Tortuga - take this as a gentle challenge please, but what is stopping you from ceasing all communication? Pushing your buttons is easier when you give them the keyboard. Boundaries...When you are done with a relationship...why not be done and if the person keeps bothering you, that makes them a creepy stalker who you can call the police on. I just don't want to see you get hurt again (but not my job to save you either I know).
As far as dreams - yeah. I had the same dream everytime one of my relationships was going bad and about to end. It was that I would be lost somewhere and trying to find a phone to call the person I was dating and I'd find a phone and it would be broken or the keys were missing, or their number didn't work, or it changed. I didn't need to look anything up to know that all it meant was the person was not emotionally available to me anymore and I was trying to reach them and receive back from them and just not connecting. Relationships always ended after having that same dream (whether I wanted them to or not). It happened in my last 3 relationships.
Hmmm, yes dreams are sometimes like holidays- when you get back no-one really wants to hear about them... i was burnt out, worn out, about 8 years ago. So I just had to teach myself to sleep.
I would often wake up with nightmares. I taught myself this as a kid. To end them. But it left me sleepless!
I made a rule not to get up before 5 am. If I woke up at night to wiggle my toes and just rest.
This had born good fruit- I still wake up at night sometimes, but can get back to sleep now.
I had a great dream this morning. My dreams have themes and trends. Some don't have obvious messages. Some of my dreams used to be unrepeatable- but not so recently.
I think some of them are about unfinished business.
On Saturday mornings I mostly have an extra sleep-in. Dreams I have in this space are more like movies- mostly nice.
Oh lord, I've always had nightmares, bad ones, pretty much every night and since I started seeing my A 7 years ago, I have dreamed that he does awful things to me, one that recurrs over and over again that we are being chased by zombies, or a shark, or a zombie shark lol and every time, he throws me to the scary thing so that he can get away. So I wake up and tell him about it and we have a good laugh about how evil he is in my dreams. I dread to even consider the obvious meaning LOL. Maybe I should start writing them down.
Hmmm, yes dreams are sometimes like holidays- when you get back no-one really wants to hear about them... i was burnt out, worn out, about 8 years ago. So I just had to teach myself to sleep.