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Cathyinaz


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Good Morning my friends

I have been praying a lot for some answers and asking for guidance.  Many many people have gone through the death of a child and there have been many degrees of remorse, guilt and sorrow.  I am one that has to at least prepare myself just in case.  It's terrible to think this way but I myself have to.  That is me.  

My son as I know him is telling me to please leave him alone with his no contact.  He has done it in the past so I know.  He will contact me when he's ready like he always has in the past.  If something happens during this time I can't do anything about it.   I have to have trust in my God of my understanding.  Faith on whatever happens is what life has handed to him and me as terrible as it might sound.

I don't want my son to die before me but I have to be prepared.  A progressive disease like cancer or any other terminal disease.....something, sometime, somewhere there will be a end, recovery or death.  Which way I don't know and can't control the outcome.  That's why in this fellowship we learn to take care of us.  We need to be gentle on us. We detach with love and kindness so we can in our minds have no guilt and remorse for what might happen.  My role is important for my sanity. 

3.   Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.     I'm struggling with this at the moment but I truly understand why now and letting God take my hand and show me the way. 

((( hugs )))   I am not alone

 

 

 



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Rose50


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(((Cathy)))

I am right there with you. I am 99.9% sure that my son has relapsed and I feel some responsibility as I gave him money for rent and food with some extra. My mistake.

You are not alone. We will get through this.

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yanksfan51


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Cathy:

You are not alone...and your strength and everything you have been through are coming through your post.  We are all here to support you.

YF



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neshema2


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from CATHY I don't want my son to die before me but I have to be prepared.  A progressive disease like cancer or any other terminal disease.....something, sometime, somewhere there will be a end, recovery or death.  Which way I don't know and can't control the outcome.  That's why in this fellowship we learn to take care of us.  We need to be gentle on us. We detach with love and kindness so we can in our minds have no guilt and remorse for what might happen.  My role is important for my sanity. 

3.   Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.     I'm struggling with this at the moment but I truly understand why now and letting God take my hand and show me the way. 

((( hugs )))   I am not alone

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No my friend, You are SO NOT alone......We are here with you.....send you some peace and comfort energy last night....hope u received it, it went out fastest delivery.......and no we cannot control outcomes....we can only do our best....surrender the rest......and it is haaard to give over stuff, but what else can we do????  when I think of it that way???    "ok, Neshema, U don't want to surrender and toss it off you, walk away in your head,  u got a better solution?????"   my answer is always, when I am honest,  "NO"........



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Gaby


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Cathy .. You are not alone.. Even though my sins in recovery by choice.. I am still feeling the same feelings and having bad projections as if he was still out here. Please know that we all are here for you. My depression has never been so bad until now. I know it sounds weird but its true. Our HP will guides us through and will watch over our AS.. I wish I was with you just to talk.. God bless..

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Sweet Stanley


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(((Cathy)))  You are not alone.... we are all in this together...Take care of you... Saying a prayer for you and your son.



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(((C))) Much encouragement and support and love for you today, sister.

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