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Hi, Lyne: Lots of readings on Live and Let Live in ODAT, C2C, and Hope for Today have helped me. Maybe some of the readings can help you? I always find something in those readers when I find myself slipping and my emotions start churning.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Sunday 1st of September 2013 09:13:51 PM
I aways find returning from vacation very difficult. Glad you shared here and had a lovely vacaton. Now remember to stay in the moment and in the day. Pray. trust HP and your progam will return
Keep coming back
-- Edited by hotrod on Monday 2nd of September 2013 08:33:02 AM
Hi All-I learn new things everyday. While I was away and had time with my newly recovering A, it was easier to be grounded and focused and serene. We've been home two days and with the mail, messages, unpacking, calls to make, laundry, etc., I find some of my stinking thinking creeping in, like too concerned with what the A is doing and not doing and may do! Can I loose myself that quickly? Got to get a grip here. Recognized what I am doing and I cannot go back to the abyss. Cannot and will not. Must re-focus on me and what I need to do and how I will be happy (?) and return to my work and do a good job there. What A will be doing is not my life anymore. Been there, done that, ain't going there again. OK? So help me stay on track Lyne
It's really hard not to revert to the obsessive thoughts about these A's....I am new here but what helped me today all day is thinking I can't God can let Him, not that I am doing wonderful but much calmer. My A stood me up tonight God knows what he is doing, I would normally be crying and phoning constantly and generally obsessing, I just keep telling myself this I can't God can slogan over and over to get through these thoughts. Hang in there. :)
I know you may not always feel it, but the program you are working is coming through your post. We all have those times when the obsessive thoughts come back to visit. I agree w everyone who posted about the readings and meetings--every time you will come away with something that is helpful. For me I have been realizing how much attention I have paid to EVERYONE ELSE'S business!
Stay strong and don't beat yourself up about having some of those old thoughts.....one day at a time
When I have these obsessive thoughts and fears I force myself to do something and take my mind off it. I find a brisk walk helps as well as calling a friend.
I felt better even after just posting last evening! All your words of wisdom and experience are greatly appreciated. I am already in a better space today. I think we go back to the dysfunctional behavior because it is such an ingrained habit-we did it for years and the new thinking is going to take a long time, at least for me, to replace the old. I am very encouraged by how quickly I could return to my new and improved alanon brain. Love you guys, Lyne
Lyne