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I was scared in court last week (not like the last time though), as I'm going pro se at the moment .. I will continue to do so until I find it necessary to retain an atty, based upon the two atty's I have spoken to my divorce atty as well they have both indicated that there are things I can do through the divorce AND to just go ahead and pursue it on my own. If I get it .. I get it if not I don't. They both feel I have a good chance at getting it because STBAX is just way over the top. He's been proven a danger to himself and to others all while I've had the EOP AND Omgosh HIS atty hung him big time. My last offer from him .. HOLY COW!! I swear the stuff he wrote I don't think he realizes that the story his client told him is soooo over the top it's stupid. He put the story in the offer letter .. seriously my eyes bugged out of my head!! I've given that to the State's Atty's office and basically now he's going to have to stick to that story because if he changes ONE word unless he's on the stand .. they will get him for perjury. Honestly he could wind up in more trouble for this offense than the DUI which I still find crazy.
It was a far cry from the last go around, .. since the last time I faced off against his atty in court his client hadn't told the truth (I'm sure he still hasn't however both atty and client have had it explained there is a whole lot of money and time on his part that will have to be invested) and his atty just thought I was a POS big time. NOW this time his atty went in and was extremely humble and I think in some ways is very unsure as to what I know and what I don't .. so I had to laugh to myself. He is also probably very aware that I think HE is a POS as far as enabling his client. I had a long discussion with mine and told her she needs to really impart to his atty how sick his client is and how we need to get divorced or I'm going to wind up unable to divorce him. I need to move on already.
In court I was clear and steady even more than I was the last time and I threw out some terms that it was obvious I had been speaking to an atty. You have to remember this is the same man who was blustering around the last time talking about how he was going to get the charges in the criminal case dropped and how MY representation had to contact him by 8/22 I just kind of gave him a whatever look although inside I was terrified .. thankfully .. that was when I spoke to the other atty's and they assured me that no he can't make me do anything. That put me at ease. Especially in facing him I was very clear with my intent and what I wanted.
I do feel better going before the judge and again it wasn't good and it wasn't bad .. I got what I needed another status update until Oct 3rd which means my EOP stays in effect until then which is awesome for me. Let's face it STBAX hasn't been able to go 2 weeks without incident and I don't see this being any different. I really feel sorry for him. Nothing changes .. well nothing changes.
Now what new adventures have I had .. lol .. well the kids and I took a trip out of town this week twice and then I bought a grill which I hauled home in my little car .. LOL AND I put it together .. it's the first time I have ever put anything like that together and it was AWESOME!!! Can't wait to grill it's going to have to wait .. LOL. It's to hot and I'm to tired, .. it took a long time to get it together and the weather has been brutal. I did it and that really made me feel good about things I can do!!
More court next week I have two important dates for me .. mediation which he hasn't bothered with and some personal stuff I need to take care of. After that I'm off the hook for at least another 4 weeks which will be a relief!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I give up you use a lot of acronyms...what does POS mean. By the time you finish divorcing this guy your going to have a legal degree!!.....in support Oldergal
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
Let's stick with Piece of Crap and you can fill in the blank on the "S" .. lol .. I have learned more than any one person needs to know who isn't a professional and I really don't want to know.
What has made me feel more confident is my limited understanding of the whole system how it works. The more I watch in the court rooms the more I learn. The more I go in the more comfortable I feel in terms of it's not so scary to talk to a man in a robe. I think his atty is now wishing he didn't teach me some of his tricks .. after all I got the original OP in June of this year and now we are into going into Oct and STBAX (soon to be alcoholic ex) and I still have one .. God is giving me what I need. Delay, delay, delay the last go around I was informed he was prepared to go to a hearing and he's not singing the same tune now.
The fact I continue to go in alone pretty much shows my stubbornness that I'm not paying and I DO have a case. I'm just biding my time and if his atty isn't getting that then that's on him. After all "we are NOT amused his client spent 3 DAYS in jail." Seriously? I'm SERIOUSLY not amused that my oldest child was exposed to internet porn on the "kids" tablet .. sooo whatever. Even my atty was like umm .. P .. soooo NOT ok and NOT appropriate. I was like umm .. think? I'm seriously NOT amused that he was drunk and only had the kids for 3 hours into a 2 day visitation .. soo don't get me started on "My client is NOT an alcoholic" I beg to differ and it can fully be proven that YES he is .. the state has already indicated he has issues.
Anyway, it did feel good to face the other atty stand my ground and not be bullied I did speak and I was calm and collected, .. he was humble big time so I would like to know the whole story.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
it's not so scary to talk to a man in a robe... Thinking back to growing up in church and being afraid to talk to those men in robes .. not that way anymore .. I don't know where i'm really going with this except i'm sure there's a connection in there somewhere for me to see on a much deeper level .. Still hoping it doesn't come down to court for me too; the idea still scares me .. It hasn't happened yet but I just know even though the air is quiet for now, pretty sure from experience there will still come the day .. It's not today though so just for today I will focus all my good energy hp's way and keep you in thoughts for the next date ..
