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Hoot Nanny


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I hope this makes sense. I am dealing w/ a lot of anxiety & confusion right now. I have been to see my mom. I saw her on Sat. She seems better but is still way out there. I am very nervous about her condition. I have to keep living one day at a time today. I want to project on to the future as I am nervous again about what is going to happen to my mom. As I think I mentioned before, I was very hesitant about seeing her in her present condition & that in the past she seems to be the same in some ways as I experienced when I was younger. She recovered before. Why am I concerned that she might not be back to her old self ever again? She is now 70 years old & has been in the hospital for over a week now. I guess what I am trying to say that I am very concerned about everything that has to do w/ my mom's future. See, it is hard for me to stay in the present moment. I am having a hard time working the program. I was reading about First things First a couple of days ago in the courage to change book. It basically told me what to do in a crisis if I am right. I am trying to take care of me right now & it seems like simple tasks seem like a chore for me. I can't seem to find my reading glasses. I guess the problem might lie in the fact that confusion has really set in. My reading glasses are so important now that I have had my surgeries. I can't seem to hold onto them very long enough to read anything. I can't even read my cell phone w/o them. It is kind of crazy because I had my vision restored! Why am I complaining about not being able to read? I read somewhere that most people lose their close up vision in their 40's & 50's anyway. I am now 47. Go figure.

I am working on staying on my side of the street. I need my mom in my life but I have to let her find her own path. I can only do so much to help her. I am powerless over whatever happens to my mom. Only God can restore her to sanity. Now I have to work on where I stand on the 2nd step. I need some sanity too. I have been doing silly things that I don't normally do. I need what it says in the Serenity Prayer. I need to accept the things I cannot change. I can change only my life, not anyone other than myself. What do they call it once we have some time in the Program? Wisdom. Experience. Strength & Hope. That is really all I have to offer right now. Hopefully the next time I post on here my mind will be more clear.

Kathleen



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Prayers and positive thoughts Kathleen  Thank you for the update



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One step at a time, easy does it and the other al anon slogans you know.  Sit in as many meetings as you can, and this too shall pass.  We really only have the present moment, so we can't not be in it.  Love you, love your mom, love your life.  (((hugs)))



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Isn't if funny when we believe we are so confused but end up writing such a wonderful share!? Yes take care of you. Maybe part of it is takingI care of mom. I like what you said. So possibly every morn you could think, ok is there anything I can do for mom today? Or is there anything I want to do for mom. If not then let it go. I choose not to think of mom the rest of today. if yes then do it, then let it go. That is what works for me.

He it hurts when our parents are not the same. Many of us go thru it. Life sadly gives us some hard things to bear.

You just keep going,even if you don't feel like it. It's ok to be an airhead sometimes, I welcome the break from my mind always thinking! I invite you to embrace however you feel each day. Give yourself what you need. A nap? A snickers almond bar (oh no neeeever me) a nice cool shower, put your hair in bobby pins and go for the curly look, do your toes, keep it simple!

always always good to see you on here. love,debilyn



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I lose my reading glasses a lot, Kathleen, even on days I'm not feeling stressed. Somebody bought me one of those eyeglass holders. Couldn't stand it around my neck and even when I kept it on - still couldn't find my glasses. Many thoughts of calm and peace, balance and support being sent your way.

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Thank you for you share Kathleen!

I'm 48, need reading glasses to read anything & everything...I do not like them chained around the neck>>>;)

I have many many pairs! And I do not lose them but I DO FORGET ON A REGULAR BASIS THAT THEY ARE ON MY HEAD...I GET IN THE SHOWER WITH THEM & ALWAYS 

GO TO BED WITH THEM ON!!! LOL I am grateful that we learn in Al-Anon to laugh at ourselves and RULE #62, STOP TAKING OURSELVES SO DAMN SERIOUSLY!

That is my saving grace! (((Big Hugs))) to you!! One Day At A Time it will all work out:) Thank you for sharing:)



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With so much weighing heavily, please continue to be good to you!

With needing reading glasses- understand- huge adjustment for me too... and, of course, they're always where I last left them!

In support

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