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Hi! Thanks for the share, N. When I was "strongly invited" by a priest in a retreat for divorced, widowed and separated persons to face my aloneness, I was scared. I tried to avoid that aloneness totally - finding all sorts of reasons to be outside of my room that contained no distractions. I ran around the hallways of the retreat center looking for people who "might need my help." He became like the cheerful hall monitor who basically interrupted my "helping." Once I did what was suggested (strongly) and with a guard armed with a collar of white under a black shirt, my life changed dramatically within a few short hours, days, weeks and months. I do think that being alone with ourselves can make a huge difference that is positive in our lives.
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In the old Coda days, I HAD to have someone around me....HATED to be alone....I guess I didnt like my own company, but being around the wrong people all my life, I could be in a room full of the old bio family and feel like I was soo alone....dead inside......OR with the AH#1....he would be home , always, after work, when he worked and be in the house w/me and when he was not mean, he acted like I did not exist....I guess I should have been gr8ful for the quiet, but I felt soo alone...married but alone.....Now??? looking back??? I am better off alone then w/someone who is abusive or toxic....Don't need it...Alanon has taught me to have a relationship w/me....I have myself...My pets...my quiet little house....I can do what I want...I am ALONE, but I am NOT Lonely........
Great truth that I have become good with finally, I am about my heaviest weight wise, but more comfortable alone in my skin suit then ever maybe and it feels good. I know I am a great person and like who I am finally and stable in my life. Thanks for this post!
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