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Glad you didn't find it boring. Anything that points to numbers puts me to sleep. Now, words!!!! That's a whole different story for me.
Hope you can get to f2f meetings. We have on-line meetings, too. 1 in the morning. 1 at night. Big help to us trying to learn how to cope with this disease and focusing on what we can change rather than what we can't change. There is a song that Clint Eastwood sang many years ago in some movie musical about a cowboy. The title escapes me. Some of the lines of the song were these: "I talk to the trees, but they don't listen to me. I talk to them all in vain." I used to argue and talk to the As in my life thinking my words would in some way turn some kind of screw in their heads, a lightbulb would go off, and they'd stop using. It never happened. All that happened was my waking up to the futility of it - and it took awhile. I still get tempted, but I've learned - I'd just be talking to the trees. So, I talk to myself and do what I'd like them to do.
I think it is a really neat thing that you're going to school and not letting your Mom's disease stop you. Keep on, keeping on. It sounds like school is very important to you.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Thursday 8th of August 2013 08:16:48 PM
I had an argument with my AM about her drinking and her denial about it. She was angry because she didn't want to talk about it and I was angry because this disease just robs myself and my family of the woman we used to know... its so painful to watch and experience.
To top it off, I took a Statistics class for the second time from July 3-August 7 and I just found out that I failed the class. My final grade in the class was a 68.8% which is a D. I'm crushed but I'm hindsight I know the material better. :)
Hi, Phoenix. BreakingFree posted some slogans yesterday that you might want to read. They could be very helpful to you.
As far as a D in the class. Is a D an automatic failure in a class or a just made it through the skin of your teeth D? I hated that type of grade. I always took the class over - as many times as it took. Just wouldn't accept it as the best I could do. Sounds like you hate it, too? And - Statistics - Oh, my, snnnnnnnoooooooooooooooorrrrrrrrrre.
Glad you saw the gain in it rather than the loss. Pretty good attitude since beating up on yourself sure won't change it. (((P)))
I had an argument with my AM about her drinking and her denial about it. She was angry because she didn't want to talk about it and I was angry because this disease just robs myself and my family of the woman we used to know... its so painful to watch and experience. To top it off, I took a Statistics class for the second time from July 3-August 7 and I just found out that I failed the class. My final grade in the class was a 68.8% which is a D. I'm crushed but I'm hindsight I know the material better. :)
Hey Phoenix.....the AM you can do nothing about, so as a good alanoner you know that you can only work on you right??? meetings...steps...sponsor work....literature.....AND as Grateful said, stop by BreakingFree's post on the slogans....I read them and practice them....
as to the test???? yea, I would take it again....Can't stand to do less then my best and maybe your stressing about your AM whom you cannot help, contributed to your not being able to focus on your class and that test....More proof that you need to take care of you and let everyone else go to walk their own paths, learn their own lessons, pay their own consequences...and you take care of you.....and bet you do better on that class when you begin working on your program and focusing on you...:)
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Neshema2, true I can't change my AM but some days are better than others...today happened to be a really bad day. As for working the program I'll do the best I can to go to F2F meetings but it's hard because I have school in a few weeks and have class late at night. I'm trying to remember to read. I know I have to get back with that.
grateful, I didn't find statistics to be boring just a bit confusing at times.
Neshema2, true I can't change my AM but some days are better than others...today happened to be a really bad day. As for working the program I'll do the best I can to go to F2F meetings but it's hard because I have school in a few weeks and have class late at night. I'm trying to remember to read. I know I have to get back with that. grateful, I didn't find statistics to be boring just a bit confusing at times.
Hey Phoenix.....Understand about classes.....that is why I mentioned Online....I worked FT AND went to school, but I wanted to save my sanity so I went on line for meets...had a gr8 sponsor and worked the hell out of the steps...I was one very tired lady, but it was all worth it......YOU are worth it....Cheers and good luck in school...I am back in school this fall (accounting brushing up and income taxes) as every year.....but I am not dissing my program.........Take care
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I can relate to going to school and taking hard classes, my program requires us to have B's or higher or we fail, it has been hard. When I have slipped in working my recovery program I have gotten distracted and had to make up for it with extra studying. Sometimes the stinkin thinkin takes hold and the need to fix and enable my A's or just not be focused and everything else takes a backseat, but to really be focused on your al-anon recovery it takes a lot of reminders, slogans, meetings, reading al-anon literature and calls to my sponsor to keep me on track. It really works when you work it and you are worth it. It is about progress not perfection and you are learning what it takes to be a successful student but even more important to better focus on the things you can change. Never give up! Sending you much love and support!
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Check with the admissions office or your counselor to see if there are meetings on campus that you can make. There were when I was in college. Keep coming back...(((((hugs)))))
I forgot to add I meet with tutors for my harder classes and it has helped tremendously, my school pays for them so it is free and I just have to show up!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 800-344-2666
" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Glad you didn't find it boring. Anything that points to numbers puts me to sleep. Now, words!!!! That's a whole different story for me.