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When my needs were not only not met, but sabotaged and attacked at home, I being the resourceful one, just went out and got my OWN family....It took some time, becuz its difficult for a 9 year old to get up and shop for a new family, but I did this in my teens.....You saw a picture of my missing sister Gini.....This family, I found when I was around 13....I spent a lot of time with them...They tried to adopt me, but he wouldn't let me go.....this wonderful family then said to him, that they knew there was abuse going on and that if he didn't share me generously, they would contact a lawyer and lets see how much stuff comes out in court....This family saved me from total insanity or suicide....I had enough of a respite with them , that my hell was blunted juuuust enough to keep me going.....I will be forever grateful for these now deceased parents....Dad and Mom "G" and my sisters Gini, and Patsy and another sister who took me under her wing when we were in 8th grade.....Debbie......I have other family of my heart members , all of whom , I am so grateful to and grateful for......I guess the Creator thought I was "OK" enough as a person, to have enabled me to find another family.....
I am living proof that DNA is sooo overrated....its not biology, it is from the HEART....Trust me...I know...AND are we not all sisters and brothers in this universal creation.....I see the universe as this BIG giant crown...and we are all the tiny little jewels that bedeck that crown....How bright our lights shine depend on how much we care about our character.....
I love this too! I forgive and love my family of origin and I know they came from the same dysfunctions they brought forward and I am trying to break the cycle for myself and my children. I feel very empowered and capable after all these years thanks to al-anon. Sending you love and support!
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My family of origin was not alcoholic and never drank. It was a religious thing. No, not Mormon but older than that. But my nephew went back into the records inthe old country and found out that a distant grandfather was the town drunk and was hauled into court for beating his family.... and being a burden to their society. This was hundreds of years ago. Their reaction was religion that said no drinking.
Enjoyed reading this, it has given me some hope. I am trying to break free and be strong to detach with love from my alcoholic mother who has cirrhosis but is in active alcoholism. I have tried so desperately to 'fit in' with my mums side of the family (Aunty & unc, cousins) and all they do is reject me. Even to the point where when it was my cousins birthday & they went out eating but my mum & me weren't invited (again) so i dropped him a present off the next day & his card. On my birthday i didn't even get a text message saying happy birthday. I moved to an area to be closer to this family & when i saw my cousin in the local supermarket the soon as he saw me he said ''I'm in a rush'' and walked straight past me. I tried my best not to cry but the hurt i felt from that was crushing. It's not like I'm a drug addict (not that that would then be okay to ignore me) but i haven't done anything bad for them to hate me so much. I think because my mum opened up about her abuse from her father & they didn't believe her that it put some kind of thing in their mind that we are both to be avoided.
I am hoping to one day find a family that loves me and accepts me into their life. It gives me such strength to read that family isn't always blood its the ppl in your life that want you in theirs. This is amazing, thank you.
-- Edited by qwerty49 on Sunday 11th of August 2013 08:15:16 AM
