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Ok I'm not going to lie .. I'm terrified .. I don't know what to expect. The offer letter that his atty sent was horrific .. and at the very end basically what was implied not stated is that my kids are horrible brats and that they left that Friday not because their dad was drunk .. because they weren't getting what they wanted so they had a temper tantrum and left the house. I didn't know this however 1300$ (1500) with maintenance a month is more than enough money for me to support a family of 3. I'm working full time and there fore no maintenance is necessary. LOL!! My kids also have spent the summer alone every day .. that is not true obviously.
It's scary to go into court without representation and I'm either going to sink like a rock or swim with the sharks .. hoping obviously to at least swim even if it's backwards and upside down!!
The whole goal is to get this extended to the kids. It would be good for everyone at this point. So I'm just going to take it as it comes and hope for the best right now. BTW .. he spent 3 days in jail! He spent Saturday night, Sunday and then Monday until 130pm .. that's NOT three days. LOL!!
Anyway, .. lots of prayers please .. I'm praying that all of this works out for the highest good of all concerned, God already knows the outcome and I know this part of the deal. I'm just trying to let go of the expectation of good or bad.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
It is terrifying. I remember those days even though it was 30 years ago. I did not have my program then, so the knowing that my HP was by my side was nowhere in the mix. It will work out for the highest good, no matter what the outcome. Many attorneys have brains like an alcoholic...twisted and manipulative. Prayers for you all.
Pushka: thoughts are with you; I was in court to determine child support earlier this summer and it can be intimidating I know. We're all thinking of you, hopefully judge will be able to look clearly at what the kids need!
Stay strong
YF
Sending many prayers for a favorable outcome. My ex has been able to engage the court with his manipulative lies, but I know that some judges that are more savvy than others. Don't forget to breathe and know that if the outcome does not meet your expectations, other paths will open.
Saying prayers, Pushka. Just remember to stay as calm as you can when you're before the judge. Try not to interrupt anyone (especially the judge), and wait to speak until the judge addresses you directly. Your HP will be with you, right there beside you. You won't be alone. ((HUGS))
((((Pushka)))) HP's got tomorrow....You have now only. Let go and ...... ((((Hugs)))) holding you and bringing prayers for the moment. You're winning he's lying still because of course it is he that is more afraid than you are. You own your moment only. Go read everything available to you on detachment. Get some wire clippers and cut the wires between your buttons and your emotions...visualize that...snip, snip, snip...Oh looky no more triggers!!! You're not alone Sis...We're here. (((((hugs)))))
