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Ok .. sooo .. I'm dealing with court stuff and for the LIFE of me couldn't figure out why the STBAX's arrest wasn't listed on the county website .. it's amazing what is listed that is considered public record. Our little town lists more than most so it's informative.
Yes, this is going to sound so unhealthy .. I do check daily what has happened with the court stuff I'm currently dealing with .. honestly there are about 3 cases I'm dealing with so I like to know of any surprises. His sleazy atty decided the day after my atty had her baby to file a court date .. MY atty's office knew nothing about it and trust me .. if it's not on their agenda they aren't looking and YES it would have counted against me badly .. instead .. he looked very foolish. I'm sooo glad I was keeping up and it doesn't take long to check what is happening. It's an evening routine for me after dinner. My winding down time.
So ANYTIME there is a question as to what is going on I check. Here I am going .. why isn't this up on the website yet? I'm completely confused .. LOL?! An advertisement came in the mail (I have NO idea why this is coming to MY house however for some reason in the courts this is still listed as his residence?) and this is how aggressive some atty's are telling the STBAX what not to do .. PLUS .. I couldn't even get a copy of the statement. All I can think is some SOB atty (he's probably a very nice guy .. my opinion of atty's are not high on the list at the moment) is telling him how to get out of more trouble SERIOUSLY!? Well, now I have the docket number so I looked it up and OMGosh .. his name was misspelled .. I about fell out laughing because I look at the advertisement and that's how I realized as I'm looking at the docket information .. YUP .. his information is misspelled I'm sure it was a data entry error.
Tomorrow I will go in because I need to be on that side of town in the AM anyway .. and make sure that is completely taken care of and they fix it.
It's one more piece of information though that God brought to my attention as I'm going seriously God .. why hasn't this been entered yet? Well DUH .. can't find someone who's name isn't spelled right! It would be like misspelling John Smith .. I do know who did what .. I'm thinking someone needed some extra coffee that day .. LOL!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
((((Sis)))) it will be sooooo good when the peace of mind and serenity comes and you can relax some huh? I have memories also of trying to clean up the noise and stickiness in my life caused by the fallout of divorcing my addict wife. What a horror story...Been there...done that...ain't goinna do that again. Stay the course (((((hugs)))))
Whatever are you going to do with all the free time once things are finally, eventually, resolved? I don't blame you for checking every day; you are checking on something that affects your life and the negative consequences need to be avoided if possible - doing what you can to protect you.
Sorta like checking your bank account every morning to be sure no one hacked it and is using it to buy squid in Italy.
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
Well pushka, that hardware/bread analogy is useful across multiple scenarios. Going to an attorney and expecting anything but cutthroat semi-unethical behavior is like...Welll, you know what it's like right? I know you will be much more at ease when it's done... Though the STBAX will still figure in in some ways.
He won't figure in as much as every one thinks... the kids and I will be here in town for another 9 months. I'm working on having a rock solid plan for moving. Unless something seriously changes which in Gods hands, the normal route for the men in his family is to completely check out. Out of sight out of mind. Even 20 miles away .. he wouldn't make the effort.
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo