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I am glad you are here and have had the courage to reach out with such honesty. Living with the disease of alcoholism is extremely difficult and painful. Many of us, upon finding alanon realize that we need to be restored to sanity and rebuild oUR lost self esteem. I am sorry that you have lost your children and know if you keep coming back, working this program ,you will find help and hope
You are not alone
-- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 4th of August 2013 08:44:46 PM
I am new in Alanon, I started out doing one meeting a week. Which in my situation was not enough, so I found another meeting to go to and now I go to 3 meetings a week and plus I get on here now so I go to one everyday. I got involved in Alanon because I have a very unmanageable life and I do not have a relationship with nobody in my family. They do not trust me at all because I have lied so much to them. I was in a 5 year relationship with someone who drank, lied, talked to other girls and to this day I don't know cause I am not sure if he slept with any of the girls. I have it in the back of my mind he did, however he has said he never done anything just talked. We lived together for 2 years of our 5 year long relationship and it was a messed up situation. He would be gone for hours at a time and when he would come home he paid no attention to me. We lost our spark our passion what we fell in love with to begin with. Now it was not all him in this I had my part as well and I know that I have a lot of changing to do, I would go through his phone and accounts online meaning email. I lost a lot of trust and with this being said I managed to lose my mind in the commotion. I decided to let him go last weekend for him and I both to get help and to see if there is anything left of us at all and I am in full belief I am either going to see that it is not worth working out or that yes it is workable and as long as we are both seeking help we will get through this. On top of all this I lost my kids last year due to the condition I was living in with no lights or water cause money was a issue, I didn't have a job so therefore it was avery tight situation. But this is a brief summary of why I am seeking alanon.
Welcome! 3 meetings a week?! That's awesome. I like to attend 2, but the most I've ever done is 4 in a week.
Your profile says you were born the same year as me. One issue (if you want to call it an issue at all) is that I am usually the youngest person in the room whenever I go to a meeting.
That used to make me feel like I didn't belong but after sharing, listening and working the program I realized it didn't matter.
Aloha Tiff and welcome to the board. Reading your post I nod my head we are here for the same reason, because our lives have been affected by someone elses drinking and/or using. Same unmanagability starting from the very very poor decision to be in a relationship with a compulsively addicted person in the first place either knowingly or not. There is no such thing as too many meeting as long as the need for peace of mind and serenity still exists. When I am not at my home group...I come here and read...alot...to stop for me would be seriously dangerous. (((((hugs)))))
So glad you found us at MIP here and are making it to al-non face to face meetings as well, that is where I found my sponsor and worked the steps. This process has changed my life from a miserable string of days to be survived to a life worth living and living it I am! Keep up the great work and keep coming back! Sending you love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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