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My A/A daughter called to say she is out of food, everything. I told her I would bring my granddaughter to my house, she doesn't want to come. She said she will have food on the 7th of the month. She said she felt like she was having a neverous breakdown, I told her I would pick up B. and call her dad to come pick her up or she could stay with me until she went back to school.
I'm not too worried about my daughter not having food, I told her and my grandson about places that give away fee food, they said they didn't have transportation to get there, I said when you get hungry enough you will find a way to get there.
I feel so sorry for my granddaughter being in the mix of all this.
Gettingitright!!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
Detaching makes it so difficult when there are children involved.
You must do whats best for you and turn them over to their higher power.
But if you decide to bring food to the children, It doesnt mean you are enabling, It means you are
humane person and love your Grandchildren. Nothing wrong with that.
I understand where your coming from. It's hard to detach when a young one is involved. I couldn't leave her there but you say she wants to stay. Tough one..
If you decide to take food...don't take AD with you. You buy and bring. She doesn't need to make the decisions on what she wants.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
It's a very difficult spot your AD put you in. Always so difficult with grandchildren thrown in the mix. Keep saying the serenity prayer. I need to keep reminded that my AD has an HP as well and I need to turn her over to his care.
HF...that is certainly the definition of "tough love" as was shown and explained to me years ago. That is Trusting God as the first three steps suggest. Praying with and for you on this one. It's not called "tough" love for no reason. (((((Hugs))))) In support.
Thnksfor your prayers and support. HP (God) is good, allis well, I picked her up, we went out to eat, went shopping for school clothes, got her a movie. Her dad will pick her up next week-end.
My daughter was very emotional, crying and did apologize for the things she had said about me last month, I hug her and told her I love her and acceptrd her apology. I got emotional too. I don't know what that was all about, her state of mind.
I don't know if this was the right thing to do, but I told her and my grandson that I had to get out of there because I'm afraid of the disease because it was trying to make me sick and kill me.
I did teke her a few item of food from my cupboard, don't know if that was the right right to do.
Today I feel good. I think we,, granddaughter, will have pictures taken together after church.
Gettingitright!!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
In support.