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neshema2


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I was on step 4, but in the light of latest events, I am BACK on the hardest step for me...STEP 3

on STEP 3..............I 

"made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of my Higher Power AS I UNDERSTAND IT...."

 

I once told a newbie, this was my rendition of STEP 3......imagine lying on the operating table and U are the only one with the scalpal and your apendix HAS to come out....imagine the insanity of trying to do the operation yourself.....

 

step three we decide to turn the scalpel over to our HP...(For me it is my program and my inner deepest self or divine mind) .....we DECIDE to ask him/her/it to take control of our will and our lives......we admitted our powerlessness....we accepted the inability to manage our lives....we came to believe that our HP CAN heal us and now, we DECIDE to turn our will over and our lives over to our HP's care.....

 

Until I was able to really really accept this as the truth, I would not be ready for step 3....I still battle w/this step b/c it hits on my trust issues.....trust is the most difficult hurdle for me....Trusting in anything.....Program is the thing I trust the most....and 2nd would be my Highest self aka  Higher power within.....

I am back working step 3...I am taking on too much and not either asking for enough help....support....or just detaching and/or walking away....I still see me fighting the karma as before, not as bad, but still fighting and resisting the karma.....

So back to step 3.....knowing when I need to either get help...or if no help is available.....LETTING go, either way....either to something higher than me,  or letting go and just walking away....disconnecting me from the fighting and protecting and trying to force the outcome...

OK...I am off to bed....Don't know how much I will be on this weekend b/c I really need to, in addition to my fun and play time,  get into some meetings and work my workbooks,particularly this step.........I need to help me so I am not totally useless to my fellow creatures be they human or animal

NITE NITE, Peeps.....smilesmile



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The oppositional definante nature in me says...."I can" and then I send HP home.  LOL...love the picture of it.  ((((hugs)))) smile



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Breakingfree


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I slowly did steps 1-3 and then step 4 and I had to spend some time digging in the depths of it and I sailed again after that and have never been better. I think it is time for me to have another go through just waiting for a friend to be ready to do it with me.

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HI Neshema

I do the first 3 Steps every morning.  I simply repeat:"  I cannot, he Can,  I will let him". Then I am on my way.   I know that during the day I will be tempted to take my will back and on occasion I will do just that but The decision was made ---- The actual implementation of this takes time and is often not done perfectly01. I love  Breaking Free's  suggestions s that possibly  another  round of Step 4 through 9 might be needed to clear the air again .

 I believe I  turn my will over when I come here and post and connect with alanon  family, go to a meeting (I am saying teach me) and when I make alanon calls.   All of these are a form of taking recovery actions  The results will follow.

You are doing fine



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Cathyinaz


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I hope you had a good sleep and bright eyed and bushy tail this morning.

Enjoy Saturday.....one of the best days of the week.

((( hugs ))))

Quote: I simply repeat:" I cannot, he Can, I will let him".

Betty ........ keeping it simple. You got it down to a tee







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Betty said it best " I cannot, He Can,  I will let Him".  Don't overthink it!!

 



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Good Morning Rose - my take on step three is to identify a situation, any situation for whether I have any power to change anything, if the answer is no, then I let go and let whomever is out there take it, because IF I have the power (knowledge, skill, patience (never underestimate the value in knowing if you have the patience) or means) to be the one to fix something, then it is mine to fix; if I don't have what it takes to fix it, then it isn't mine to do anything about. I find the concept of accepting when I am powerless over something tremendously liberating - I can't fix it; and, I find determining when I CAN fix something pretty empowering as well. Cheers!

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