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Thank you. Telling my kids has got to be one of the hardest things I have ever done!
I will be honest with son.
But with daughter I think I will just tell her that daddy drank too much and got sick and went to hospital to get better..... Is that ok?
Ex's mom is going to try to get him into a mental Heath facility for when he is released from hospital. Fingers crossed they have an opening and ex is willing to go!
I would keep it really simple. I like Betty's suggestion that her dad is unwell and the folks at the hospital are taking care of him.
My kids were both very scared that their dad would hurt himself a couple weeks ago. I tried to have the police check on him, he had not outright stated he would hurt himself, they were worried enough to breathe a sigh of relief when he went to jail.
The other thing I want to point out is that sometimes kids know a lot more than we are aware of, .. they don't want to upset us so they don't say anything. At least that has been true for my children and me .. they were very busy trying to protect me knowing how hard this has all been for me. I have told them .. I'm older and suppose to be wiser there are times that is up for debate .. lol. My job as the parent is to protect them .. I have my big girl pants on and I will have to deal with whatever hurt, disappointments and so on that come my way the same way they will. Life is painful and accepting the pain allows the joy to come through. I fully believe that. It's really difficult when as a parent it's the other parent I'm protecting them from.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
So sorry for what you are going through.... I hope and pray he gets the medical attention that he needs. I also wanted to state that I agree with Pushka... my kids knew almost as much as I did... they just suffered in silence. Please be gentle with them and yourself... Peace to you.
So sorry...Looks like this is a real problem, if 2x since father's day
I would say its "truth" time for the kids....Gently, truthful, with love......secrets and hiding keeps us sick....getting it out in open frees us to make better decisions and the kids have that right to know
younger one, I hope can get into councelling w/you to deal...its a big load but it is better than lying and covering up which I don't see u wanting to do......
sending you thoughts of PEACE and comfort during these hard times
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
This time is different. Last time he went in, when they transferred him to a different location the day after.... He would call me from psych unit nonstop. This time no one has heard from him at all.
His mom called the hospital cops took him to and the hospital she thinks they transferred him to and of course no one will confirm that ex is anywhere because he is an adult.
I'm sure he hasn't been released, I think it's a mandatory 48 or 72 hour hold. It's just over 24 hours at this point.
But since he went to a different hospital this time and there for a different psych unit maybe he doesn't have phone privileges yet.
I am going out of town til Sunday. My boyfriends dad is dying... As in any minute. He lives an hour away. Anyway I doubt I will be on here for next few days.
