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I can so relate to this....This hammers home that I can only change, take care of me....as to accepting or walking away???? Why would I accept constant disrespect....If for some reason I cannot walk away physically, I sure can "cut em off" in my head....detach...walk away in my head, If I cannot just physically LEAVE....
I can't change them...I can set an example and w/boundaries can "teach" them I won't accept abuse and disrespect, but beyond that I cannot change them....I saw this post and liked it....
Thank you Neshema I need to a lot of going back and reading, asking for a new sponsor and getting back on board. I so so wronged myself this weekend. I was so STILL in denial of what my son is capable of doing.
I can't change anyone NO I can't I can only fix me and boy do I need fixing.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
((((((Neshaema))))))) I too Learned this one Myself the Hard way....
I have always thought that if I Treated others with Kindness and Carring they would return that to me, I have learned that My Expections of Others was One of My Many Character Defects! EXPECTATIONS ALWAYS Get me into Trouble! ALWAYS!
Thank Goodness i Can Work My Program and Know when the Right time is to Walk away, even tho at times, I tend to Beat Myself up all the way till I Can Grasp the Courage to do so! I'm Grateful for this Board & All the Recovery Here, Without it, I would Continue to be the "Door Mat" I Had Come Quite Comforable Being! The way My Disease Taught Me it "Should be!" Thank Goodness My Recovery has Showed Me otherwise!
Tonight I took my ex to get food. He was drunk of course. But anyway he actually said " all my life I always thought I was the better person (of me and him) but tonight you have proven that you really are the better person!" I told him it isn't a contest. Now let me be honest, I don't know if I would've taken him to get food if we didnt have kids, especially one that is still young.
