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Even though I know my son is bettering himself. I sure do miss him. He has been in rehab for 3 months. But I love him with all my heart and miss him. I do not miss the chaos just my son. So many emotions going through me right now.. Good bad and indifferent. God bless ..
When I find myself missing my son, I remember the good times . The times we laughed together, how he smiled and laughed and the sound of his voice. That helps to keep him near and warms my heart
Please keep taking care of yourself. You are worth it.
-- Edited by hotrod on Friday 26th of July 2013 08:50:54 AM
Gaby, I don't know if this will help but I've been told the program metaphorically takes us as rocks with dirt and we are all scuffed up. So much that you cant tell what is underneath. It helps us shed the dirt, shine ourselves up and become what we really are. Diamonds...each one of us. Knowing this might help you embrace the process and let go more.
-- Edited by pinkchip on Friday 26th of July 2013 08:54:44 AM
I call that "safe" missing. Just imagine how you would feel again when he wasn't rehabbing and you were trying to control. I just love it when the people I love are being responsible for themselves. It allows me to do the same. Gaby your post reminds me of the lessons on trying to fill a God shaped hole with an alcoholic...just as an example. You love him and that is all that is required...your part. In support. (((hugs)))
Oh just to pray my son was in rehab getting the help he needs. He is destined to fail without a program. It's just a matter of time. It's a go missing right now. Just think of the many years you will have together if he can stay sober and live a good life.
(((( hugs ))))
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Thank you all for your replies..yes missing him while he is getting the help he wants is the miss for him that I have been wanting.. I know our children regardless of age will see the light at the end of the tunnel.. And will want that help. My son was at his wits end. I pray and have to have faith that I will have many years to come with him if he sticks to his sobriety.. I too have to work my program because I need to be strong regardless.. He does say he misses me when I see him, but he also tells me to miss him from a distance and love him by letting go. This is why I have to pray to my higher power to give me the faith that I can do just that. It's my codependent issues I have to work on too.
