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I suspected the way my past week and a half has gone with my husband that he has been working his program his way. And as I say that, I need to look where I have been working my program my way, "if I spot it then maybe I got it". I lost my temper with him last evening and crossed over onto his side of the street. I will continue to work my recovery, make my amends and go to my meeting this afternoon...as I said not too long ago, there is no graduation from recovery work. There are many chances to be humbled.
Good morning, Paula. Good to receive this example of recovery. 10th step in action followed by a meeting with people who get it and are there for you. (((Paula)))
Paula, you have such awareness and that is where I see the program working for you. I sometimes still don't know when I've crossed over to someone else's side of the street. Thank you for reminding me to develop that awareness and to practice my program in all my affairs! Hugs!
I admire your program! Of course the spiritual axiom basically states when we have a problem with someone else we still have a problem with us because it is us that is upset and angry in the end. Recovery is not for wimps. When I learned of this axiom I was like "WTF! It's NEVER their fault!?" Evidently it's not about fault finding as much a living in the solution. Other people can be jerks or aholes but I still have to act within my program (to the best of my avility). Otherwise, I have a messy 10th step on my hands.
I admire your program! Of course the spiritual axiom basically states when we have a problem with someone else we still have a problem with us because it is us that is upset and angry in the end. Recovery is not for wimps. When I learned of this axiom I was like "WTF! It's NEVER their fault!?" Evidently it's not about fault finding as much as living in the solution. Other people can be jerks or aholes but I still have to act within my program (to the best of my ability. Otherwise, I have a messy 10th step on my hands.
I suspected the way my past week and a half has gone with my husband that he has been working his program his way. And as I say that, I need to look where I have been working my program my way, "if I spot it then maybe I got it". I lost my temper with him last evening and crossed over onto his side of the street. I will continue to work my recovery, make my amends and go to my meeting this afternoon...as I said not too long ago, there is no graduation from recovery work. There are many chances to be humbled.
Hey Paula well the GOOD news is you see it....caught it....focused on solution for it.....I measure with my "FIDA" yard stick
how frequent is my action
how intense is it
what is duration
and how FAST am I AWARE....
Sounds to me that you are doin fine.......and ya, we get all the chances in the world to be humbled.......
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"You spot it, you've got it" is one of my favorite tools that I've picked up in the rooms of Al-Anon. Perhaps because it's so efficient: it highlights one of my character defects, and calls me to put the focus back on myself. Nothing like squirming a little to remind me to move back towards the center of my program.
I so love your post and still want to graduate somehow, but alas I have to stay humble and dive back into my program again! Sending you love and support!
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
"You spot it, you've got it" is one of my favorite tools that I've picked up in the rooms of Al-Anon. Perhaps because it's so efficient: it highlights one of my character defects, and calls me to put the focus back on myself. Nothing like squirming a little to remind me to move back towards the center of my program.
OH YEA....NICE post, 1911A1.....
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