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slogan_jim


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Hi everyone,

My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of the fellowship al-anon.

My dad wanted to go to an AA bbq yesterday in out area. He got home from work at 2pm, phoned and wanted to be sure I still wanted to come. I said I'd leave my house at 3pm.

I got in my car, drove over, he's passed out on the couch. I nudge him, nothing. He's out like a light.

I don't know if he's tired or drunk. I say drunk. I know him to well. I'm not going to wait for him. I leave. Send him a text saying I saw he was out and left. I'm not going as I have things to do.

He replies that my comment upset him. He's trying to guilt me.

I sent a text today that says you don't fall asleep if you make plans with someone.

I tried calling my sponsor but no answer. He seems more interested in telling me what to do than listening.

I put my phone on silent and I don't want my dad calling drunk and guilting me.

I need to turn this to my HP.

Thanks, Jim.



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neshema2


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WOW, Sloagan-Jim   waaaay to go, my friend....

U show up at dad's house for "BBQ date" b/c you were responsible....You find him passed out...You try to wake him up, but hes "gone" ....So you did what I would have done...You Left....Did your thing.....I would have done the SAME exact thing...You took care of you, didn't let dad mess up your day....I would say you worked your program very very well.....Love to see it when someone takes their power back via the program smilesmilesmilesmile



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grateful2be


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Thanks for the update, Jim. Glad to see you're taking care of yourself, sticking to your own boundaries, and letting yourself off the hooks that come our way when we say "No" to that dysfunctional dance.

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Jerry F


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Cunning Powerful and baffling Jim...practice practice practice until it all becomes subconscious.  Someone said at this mornings meeting "I'm making it a habit to be around people who make this program the most important practice in their lives".    Me too!!  Me too!!  Thanks for the mentorship Jim and the share.   (((hugs))) smile



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Great example for me..thanks Jim.



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Yeah making plans with an A is tricky, but you didn't let it stop you. Keep on keeping on! Sending you love and support!

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