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That is a stuck point of powerlessness...what alternatives do you have. Try making a list of alternatives and then choosing which one is best to do....just try. Just being a victim or a martyr is soooo sick. Been there and done that and don't do it anymore. ((((hugs))))
Well...I just hope and pray she's not so progressed in her alcoholism that she is incapable of basic caretaking. It may help to get more compassion for your husband knowing that is part of where his disease comes from. Alcoholism is a family illness. I'm sorry that you married into it and most alanoners do not marry into it knowing in advance. At least you are in recovery...and yor husband too even if you guys have some issues still as a couple. It will get better.
That is a stuck point of powerlessness...what alternatives do you have. Try making a list of alternatives and then choosing which one is best to do....just try. Just being a victim or a martyr is soooo sick. Been there and done that and don't do it anymore. ((((hugs))))
Oh I SO agree w/Jerry...when we stay stuck in the event and anger, we can't see that we can sit down...and I sometimes make a list...I like lists....."ok, there is the prob... WHAT solution can I do??? what options can I work????" then i write them down.......when I am done I look at them...think....talk over w/trusted freinds/family........then pick which one is best and go for it........OR, if there is absolutely nothing I can do, I just toss it off me, BUT....there is always something we can do....its all Taking care of YOU.....and its up to you to pick which way to take care of you.....we are powerless over them, and situations a lot, but we are not powerless at how we respond........Please keep working the program....steps...meetings....sponsor work.....this works.....Honest, it is helping me big time PEACE
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Hi! Hope you've been able to figure out some options. Sending support as you consider what you can change in this circumstance. Keep us posted, friend.
Well...I just hope and pray she's not so progressed in her alcoholism that she is incapable of basic caretaking. It may help to get more compassion for your husband knowing that is part of where his disease comes from. Alcoholism is a family illness. I'm sorry that you married into it and most alanoners do not marry into it knowing in advance. At least you are in recovery...and yor husband too even if you guys have some issues still as a couple. It will get better.
Hi , I just Saw Pinkchip's post and yea, is she "ok" enough to give safe care to the kids??? I sure hope so, and yes, alcoholism sure is a famiy didease.....They talk about generations going on down and down, well getting into alanon and one of my kids is in it, the buck is stopping w/us......I also agree, that if you and husb. keep working your programs, diligenty, you can make it...you can have a decent life, but NO quitting the program...I went AWOL for only several months and I started to slip back into old unhealthy patterns.......Take care and keep coming back.....we are here ok???
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