The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Makes a lot of sense to me - and - its good that it really doesn't matter if it makes sense to me. You've had an experience of serenity and new insight and feel good because of that! Tonight, you practiced detachment from what you post here, and you just might sleep more easily. Thank you for sharing your progress. I love to see these kinds of experiences happen. Thank you for sharing it.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Wednesday 17th of July 2013 08:57:19 PM
Because I'm a people pleaser, don't want to rock the boat, but also don't trust myself, always second guessing,etc. I found myself out for dinner with my son who is in the throes of a separation.As an ACOA, I take full responsibility for all of my children's decisions, actions, reactions, problems, etc.I take it all on...ALLLLLLLL of it on. However, as a Newbie, I'm reading/learning to try out the Serenity Prayer and to speak with loving kindness, with serenity, and with wisdom. And not from a position of 'control'. I am also trying to respect my son and his decisions, knowing that they are really and truly his decisions.
You know what I discovered? I could speak with him tonight without the drama, without the out of control emotion, without the tears but rather with a calmness and a transparency that is new to me.
I discovered something about both my son and myself. I AM powerless over people, places, and things; that what transpired throughout the course of our conversation was not the result of anything I consciously did but rather the result of my HP restoring me to some sanity; that my son is going to be the same person whether I'm in AlAnon or not and that he will not have some epiphany because his mother is finally wearing her big girl pants.
None of this might make sense to you but it does to me. And tonight I just might sleep more easily.
It makes a LOT of sense to me.....When you let go and give your mind/emotions over to the program and whatever higher power you understand, yea, you see yourself changing and you LIKE the changes....It is the beginnings of self discovery which will = self love....then you get to share that self love w/safe others.....Nice share
__________________
Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
