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Man alive my adrenaline is thumping through me and I am never going to get back to sleep now. I awoke to hear a girl screaming and I ran out my apartment to see a young guy trying to get back into a vehicle he was just apparently kicked out of. He was hitting someone inside through a window, which I thought was a girl at the time, but I guess it was a guy in the passenger seat and he was reaching over the girl, after seeing this I ducked back inside and called 911. After awhile I heard them scuffling around the back of my apartment and one guy had a bat and the other guy wasn't backing down. After getting hit with the bat the other guy starts choking the bigger guy that had a bat and has a Mom that lives next door to me. They go down in a heap and it seemed like forever before the police showed up. I can't believe this is seriously happening, then the cops take only my neighbors son away to get him stitched up and they both blew over the limit, of course alcohol was involved, it is all around here same with drugs. This stuff has been old since my childhood and it just keeps coming back to visit. The police told the mom next door that her son and the guy he was fighting with his roommate have fights a lot at their apartment and have had heroine and other drugs found there and assume they are selling it, like she obviously has any control over her son. Why were they not both charged and arrested? It reminds me of my Mom and Dad fighting crazy scary fights, cops coming and asking my brother and I about it and lying through our teeth, my brother drunk and fighting and fearing for him, my exAH getting crazy with me. Now here I am working to detach and keep me and my children away from it and it still is all around. I think I experienced some major PTSD tonight to top it off and hate the feelings that rush through me, the helplessness of it all! Thank God my girls are at their dads and weren't awoken to all this drama right outside my apartment door. Alright now to bring myself to some kind of normalcy so I can sleep before class tomorrow at 8 a.m.



-- Edited by Breakingfree on Tuesday 16th of July 2013 01:23:41 AM

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(((((Breaking free))))). I am glad that you are safe and I hope you can get some rest tonight.  What a frightening ordeal and yes, a blessing that your kids were not present to witness it.  Sounds like you handled the situation really well.



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Of course that was triggering! i think police officers are so "used" to drunken fights...that they don't see them as crimes any more...

Violence...and anesthetizing our feelings/stress with drug and drink seems to be more and more pervasive...

All I can do is try to teach my boys a different way of approaching their lives...and pray, A LOT.

Here's to the kinder souls! (raises coffee cup for a toast)

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That is frightening...

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Breaking Free Glad you are safe and had a place to come and share your fear.

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WHAT a NIGHT......Glad U R ok and your kids.......people are NUTS when they get all amped up on liquir or drugs..

sooo sad...sorry you had to endure this.......Glad U R ok



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And you recognized your own powerlessness and didn't even attempt to intervene other than to call the police from what I read that you posted. You let them do what they wanted to do and didn't try to stop them. Quite a program message for me. Engaging is a dangerous situation is a dangerous thing to do - and you didn't! Speaks volumes of program work to me. You witnessed it. Did what was yours to do. Withdrew.

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I, too., like the way you stayed out of it...didn't get involved,  detachment but interested and calling 911

yea, I would say you not only took care of you but you did real good  getting out of the way and dropping the 911 call on them

again, I am glad U R ok

 



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Ok it is the mom me talking here. hmmmm You have not liked it there from the beginning. So the nothing changes if nothing changes...do not throw that! lol

Honey honestly this place is dangerous. I invite you to look at possible options. Your kids nor you need this stuff. ON Craigslist you can see other places, and also places that share or even have two residenses on the same property or whatever.

Um you ran out the door?? MISSY, sigh, look at what John just experienced! Also that Zimmerman thing. Talking about guns etc. They are nuts and you can be pulled right in.

I am so sad this happened to you, it is very horrible. Life does not have to be like that. I am glad you guys are ok, but do you really want to be talking to a neighbor who is telling you all that.

My neighbors two horses got out yesterday morn, came to my place of course. THAT is the kind of stuff I can handle! Barely the big old black horse with the flubbery bottom lip was a handful!

I too am happy you came here, home to share! So now what are YOU going to do???? Do you have that yellow jacket spray by your door and bed? The stuff that sprays 20 feet????I invite you to get some.....spray that is. giggle....

 



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