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Help; I am drowning! I am not going to let my mom & husband's spats ruin my life & today. I just need to vent & as much help & support as I can get. I mean I don't have a clue sometimes what to do! You all seem to say what I need to hear. I am so disgusted w/ my mom & her antics. I have mentioned her on here before & how she gets too involved w/ my marriage. Well...now the involvement is over in a Big way! She is no longer to set foot in my home for any reason. I have to say that some of the issues are AA related not Alanon as I am not an AA member but they both are. It has to do w/ the AA funds & how they are misappropriated & how my mother thinks she rules the money world! My husband was the assistant treasurer but now my mom in her infinite wisdom or someone elses' have caused her to close the AA account that my husband was a signer on. This is really none of my business but he is my husband & she still is my mother although I don't like her at all right now & she is on my crap list!
So, I go on w/ my life & focus on me. I am so grateful for the Alanon program but as some of you know my mom is also an Alanon member so I cannot get away from her! It seems like whenever I go to a meeting, I feel like she is honing in on my privacy & ruining the chance for me to share from my heart. Nowadays there is only one meeting in town. I have to let it go, I know. But I just want advice from someone how to do it!
Please, I need a bunch of comments on this post! I am still drowning!
I am so glad that you came to your MIP family and shared your heart Please take several deep, deep breaths in and out slowly. As you do continue to repeat" I did not cause it, cannot control it and cannot cure it. "
It is so important, at this moment to keep the focus on yourself and to trust that HP will resolve this small mess. AA traditions and principles will prevail, so keep in your own alanon hula hoop, detach and pray for them.
Hey Kathleen you don't have to think it is "alanon" to come an share...WE are listening
I agree with Betty, I just BREATHE , in and out...in and out...releasing all the tension and the junk that is NOT mine, I send it back , I am not in control, i cannot change , I cannot cure any of this
breath deeeeep...in and out...in and out...see yourself releasing all this see it in a bubble floating up in the sky as you breathe in peace and love....breathe out drama and chaos....
Glad you came here and it does not have to be alanon related, although A's are our challenge hey????
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Before I read Betty's post my thoughts were of the hula hoop. When I drop a hula hoop over my head, only what is INSIDE it is mine to worry about. Is the fact your mother closed an AA bank account any of your business? Was that account in your hula hoop? We may not like how others run their meetings, but this one really sounds like it's not yours to lose any sleep over.
