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I do believe that alanon gave me the tools to build that inner self. Today I only pray for HPs will and the courage, serenity and wisdom to carryy it out.
So very true. In fact all my "marriages" went bust as long as I was walking around with a broke down inner self also. Hence, the saying works sort of in reverse also.
" Happiness in life is not determined by marriage. The secret to happiness
lies in building a strong inner self , a self that no trial or hardship can diminish."
ALL my life, my sire brainwashed me to think that I had better get married b/c I was too stupid to take care of me....I bought that BS story loud and clear...Yea, when you abuse your kids, beat them, starve them, put them through one trauma after another, Yea, they are gonna be "messed up" but stupid???? I think he was jealous b/c I was SMARTER than he and he knew it
the damage was done, though..I married twice...Both alkies...that is all I knew..."Inner self"??? What was that?? Never had a clue I even had needs or the right to have needs until recovery.....I had no sense of self and what self I knew , I hated..was ashamed of..was down on...Thought for sure I had to be defective to have a sire like that and to have messed up in two failed marriages.....
Alanon is changing that for me....No longer do I accept abuse, being an "option" for someone, being minimized, demeaned, attacked, abused, dismissed of my rights as a human being. I am no longer afraid to stand to my boundaries...I don't accept bad treatment of me from anyone..I don't stick around if the relationship is not a mutual blessing..I can assert myself w/out being aggressive or "force selling" my feelings...
yes, I do have to still work on my love of self, but it is a heck of a lot better than it used to be....I love me enough to eat healthy, to exercise, meditate, be open to change and better ideas..I am willing, and honest w/myself and others...
Alanon has been my saving grace....the above saying is now DOABLE for me....It is not out of my reach....I am approaching it....ONE day at a time
Thanks for the post....SO true!!!!
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Bettina: Your postings have been so helpful to me... they always seem to be what I need to hear at the moment! I am waking up as I enter my birthday week and having the same old refrain in my head about failing in life because I am single, blah, blah, blah. Your post has turned my thoughts around. Thank you!
Isn't life wonderous. That at any moment we can decide to change anything we want. From this moment, life can become different from what it was.
I would say that is a miracle. hugs, Bettina
-- Edited by Bettina on Sunday 14th of July 2013 09:56:57 PM
(((Bettina))) YEP...I can make a better life for me by making a better me by working my program......and U R so spot on...I CAN decide to change anything and put that energy out there.....Life at my age, still having to work is hard, but it isn't unbearable like it used to be......Have a blessed day..full of sunshine and smiles for you
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