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I am so glad that you found us As others have explained, alanon is a fellowship of people who have lived with the dreadful disease of alcoholism. You are not alone and there is help and hope
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I am a mother of a 37yr old Ah. who has had liver failure twice already. The doctors ssay a few more months of drinking and she will die. I told her she had to leave my home and is now living in the streets drinking up a storm. She told me she will kill herself by drinking. But I noticed there are 12 steps here so is this forum for the ah?
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Hi. You're in the right place. This is the Al-Anon board for family and friends of alcoholics. We do practice the 12 steps ourselves. The disease affects us as much as the drinker and this is the way we heal. This must be a very difficult and scary time for you. There are many of us who have adult children with this disease. I am one of them. Welcome to MIP. Others will introduce themselves to you and share a little more. We do have on-line meetings at 9 p.m. if you'd like to join us and on-line chats as well. It is recommended that you find an Al-Anon meeting in your area where there will be people there to help you, too.
In Al-Anon we learn what we call the three "Cs." We didn't cause alcoholism. We can't control it. We can't cure it. This is true for your daughter and for you. With the help of AA and Al-Anon, we can arrest the progress of the disease. The alcoholic learns in their program. We learn in ours.
Aloha Leoko and welcome to the board. Are you familiar with the 12steps and traditions of recovery. Is your daughter? Vegas has a ton of AA and Al-Anon face to face meetings because Vegas has a ton and more problems with alcoholism. The white pages of your local telephone book should have the hotline number for both programs. If you or your daughter are familiar with our steps and work and lingo you can find the program family up there very easily. That is how I found and got into recovery myself. Give them a call and stick around here reading and sharing. In other words keep coming back. ((((hugs))))
Hi Leoko! You are in the right place...welcome. We can offer you willing ears, virtual hugs, prayers, ESH (experience, strength and hope). Prayers for you and your daughter...such a tough tough time. Keep coming back.
I am a mother of a 37yr old Ah. who has had liver failure twice already. The doctors ssay a few more months of drinking and she will die. I told her she had to leave my home and is now living in the streets drinking up a storm. She told me she will kill herself by drinking. But I noticed there are 12 steps here so is this forum for the ah?
Nooooo U R NOT in the wrong place....Glad u r here.....
This forum is for you to work on you...I am sorry about your daughter, but you cannot change her, help her, control her or cure her, but you can learn to live your life, in loving detachment to the alcoholic and take care of yourself
this program teaches us the futility of trying to change, control, coerce, "get them to do what is right" way of thinking
this program teaches us that we can only help, control, change, augment, help OURSELVES.....and by doing that and working on that we can better deal with life's speed bumps that can be big or small or inbetween
I get along waay better w/my alkie brothers by NOT getting obsessed and absorbed into their problems,I can distance myself from the drama, drinking, acting out, the self sabotage they do and just take care of me and be at peace...
its hard....acceptance is what I had to come into and it was a battle within me to get there....first I had to find out who I was, what my family of origin had to do w/my problems, then work through the anger, and then get to teh grieving over all the ones I lost or who hurt me and then I just came to accept, "this is what it is, and I cannot change it so I am cutting it loose to either solve itself or go away or what.."
acceptance does not mean I agree or like what is the reality...it just means I have quit fighting it and obsessing over it and have come to make my peace with me and my life and the situations, people around me
GLAD U R HERE
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You are in the right forum for you. If you would like your daughter ( AD ) to come here the AA forum might be good for her. The forum next to the Al-anon forum just a click away.
I'm glad your here and you are not alone...
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